disaster *ladies listen*

[RosaMystica7]

[Edited 12/21... yup my birthday]

Nevermind everything's resolved now. I don't want the old message here anymore, twas not true.

You know what the real disaster was? I listened to my friend over my own voice, and over my boyfriend's actions. *sigh* I'm so gullible sometimes.

Thanks anywayz for the advice. :santa:

[Angeleyes]

Oh my RM you certainly have had a bit of a traumatic month.

Firstly sorry to hear about the sad loss of your friend John.

Secondly, regarding your “X” ……he sounded like a selfish, uncaring so and so……….you’re better of without him.

We all have to go through these kinds of situations at some stage throughout our life. Some people choose to learn and grow from them, others …….well…….carry on regardless. But I think in this instance it’ll make you a much wiser and stronger person in your future relationships.

I am pleased however that you have chosen to dump him. From what you’ve said it seems he didn’t even respect, or care, for you that much anyway as he didn’t even have the guts to write back to you etc.

You no doubt can do much better………… just look on the bright side, you won’t be forced to have to go into any more smelly shoe shops or watch War films anymore:D

Take care and all the best…… Angeleyes:angel:

[RosaMystica7]

Thanks Angel... :)

I have decided...

that I'm glad we broke up.

When I met him a month ago, I knew there was something special about him. I knew I was going to love him, but I wasn't sure how - boyfriend or best friend. It took a while, but I finally realized that I'm going to love him as a best friend. He is a very good friend... he just doesn't know how to be a boyfriend. He didn't even realize he was hurting me. We make very good friends though. I'm glad things are okay now. :)

We had some bad times... but we had good ones too. Like when we played in toys r us for an hour. And when we were out bowling til midnight. And the countless times we drove around going nowhere and talked, and had the most fun.

I found out the hard way what happens when you try to make a boyfriend out of a best friend. There was no special spark in the boyfriend way... but we clicked in a different way.

:D :) :D :) :D :) :D

[Angeleyes]

RM I'm gonna have to take back something I said ......

*you won’t be forced to have to go into any more smelly shoe shops or watch War films anymore*

You may still have to do the above as you're his "best friend" unfortunately!:eek2:

Take care.

AE:)

[RosaMystica7]

LoL well I doubt I'll be going to any movies with him. I'd be too tempted to cuddle up on his shoulder. He makes a wonderful pillow. I don't know why I wish I were still going out with him. He obviously needs to grow up a little before he dates anyone. It's kinda awkward just being friends. It's hard to say 'later' instead of 'luv u' and to give him his good-bye hug without the kiss to go with it. I guess I just don't like change. I miss having a nice fluffy guy to cuddle up on.

Actually I think I'd be willing to go shoe shopping with him now. I appreciate him more, and I'd be glad he wanted my company. I'm a strange person, aren't I.

[Angeleyes]

*I miss having a nice fluffy guy to cuddle up on. *

I know it must be really hard for you and a bit confusing to say the least but this will ease in time. Eh and who knows, when he’s matured a bit more the relationship might kick off again (if that’s what you want). Life’s too short to sit and ponder over things, best to “go with the flow” and hey look on the bright side, at least you still have him in your life even if he has reverted back to “just a good friend”. As you know when some relationships go sour……..sometimes that’s the end whether it was a good friendship to start off with, or not.

*I'm a strange person, aren't I. *

No I think you’re far from it…….just human and I think you’re allowed to feel a bit strange especially with him having been a best friend…….boyfriend…….. best friend again, your feelings are bound to be a bit in turmoil.

All the best!:)

AE

[RosaMystica7]

Ok u're gonna call me a hypocrite but that's okay.

I decided that i was blowing everything out of proportion. i have a habit of doing that when i'm mad. and when i wrote out that message, and gave that letter to john... i was mad, upset, and confused all at the same time. NEVER WRITE TO YOUR BF/GF WHEN U'RE MAD. i learned that the hard way.

I love John. i don't know why and that's what makes it all the more real, because that's the way love is... you love someone but you don't know why.

And guess what. It took a lot of apologizing... and I asked him for a second chance... and we're going out again. And you know what? I haven't been this happy in such a long time! I didn't think I'd ever say this again, but I'm saying it. I do love John. :)

[Angeleyes]

No I’m not gonna call you a hypocrite as it’s not my place to judge you.

I can only offer you advice and give my opinions on your situation….you still at the end of the day, have to follow your instincts/whatever you feel is right in your heart. It is only you and you alone who, can make that final decision and we can only guide you and advise you of our own personal experiences etc., and their outcomes.

I hope it does work out for you 2nd time around and I hope John is a little bit more considerate to your needs as well as his own. All the best RM…..and keep in touch I would love to know how you’re getting one.

Take care and good luck:)

[LilSara86]

SO WHAT WAS THE QUESTION!! im so curious!!! hehehe

[RosaMystica7]

it wasn't really a question... a lot of people here helped me hook up with my bf two months ago, and at the time i started this board my bf and i had broken up... so basically i just wanted to tell everyone why/how we broke up. we only stayed apart for 4 days... yesterday was actually our 2 month anniversary :D