Finally ...... but any help?

[sonicsurfer]

My knees are gonna tremble and there's almost nothing I can do. I have not had any relationship for a long time and now .........? I dunno what to do to control it but seems like it will only be okay after quite some time. Then ....... I'll be just still as nervous and dunno what to say ...... I try pretty hard to talk but sometimes it's just hard to say it out. Sometimes, the words just appear in my mind but I can't decide upon whether to say it or not. Then, some will be too late to say it out. I really need some help here? And what if her friends are even more talkative than me? I'm just really worried. I try to look at her to see if she's angry at all for being so quiet and shy when I really wanted to meet her and talk to her. Please, the more the suggestions the merrier. Thanks!

[Kaisharga]

I think you're doing fine. This kind of feeling is normal for that whole relationship thing to start, and I really wouldn't worry about it too much. So what if her friends are chatty? If you two are 'being together' then you don't really need to say anything. Hold her hand, walk with her, all that good stuff. Words are certainly not the most important thing here.

Just be yourself, and don't worry about having to put on a show to make her feel a certain way. That's the best advice I can give ya.

--Kaisharga

[ladeda]

That's okay, and everyone goes through that, I think. But anyway.. if it seems halfway appropriate, go ahead and say it. I'm usually kind of shy, but when I'm out with people sometimes I'll just make a comment and everyone cracks up and I don't know what I said that was so funny.. Or maybe memorize a few one liners or jokes to throw in to the conversation if it gets dull. You gotta remember that she's with you for a reason.. there must be something she likes that you don't know you have.

[RosaMystica7]

the only thing i think i can add... don't think you have to say things. i mean yea if she's mad or depressed you'd better say something. but when you're with her... you're not required to transform into an outspoken guy all of a sudden. just be you. if she doens't like you for who you are, then it's her loss.