what does this mean?

[MiZzTzEr]

:confused: i've been with this guy for 3 years, he lives here in cali near me, but is in virginia because of bootcamp. the week of halloween, we went out, tuesday, wednesday,and friday, friday we had gone to the mall and things didnt go right. we both left without saying anything. he didnt call me sat or sunday. i didnt call him either. we were pretty serious about the relationship. n-e ways, when he went back to virginia he didnt write to me and i didnt write to him. well he came back for thanksgiving, when i called him he said that he had wrote to me and that why i hadnt written back, i never got anything. the following day i called him again and asked him for his address over there, i already had it, but i wanted to talk to him, i didnt know how he felt so i made excuses to talk to him, he asked me why i wanted his address, and i said to write to him, he said oh, and then gave it to me. then he called me the day after saying if i had called him, i hadnt and asked me again why i wanted his address, and i said to write to him, and then i asked if he didnt want me to, he said he wanted me to, it sounded like he wanted me to say something else, cuz he didnt seem pleased with my other response. do u think he wanted me to tell him how i feel, maybe that was his way of knowing how i felt. i have no clue. please help me. oh yea... we never really broke up, but it seems like we did.

[Kaisharga]

I'm always in favor of people sharing their feelings with eachother. That way you can skip all of that beating-around-the-bush nonsense and just get to the point, which is generally better in the long run.

Someone else? I know there's more to be said.

--Kaisharga

[TroubleX2]

My personal opinion and life's experience??

If you LIKE (or more) him.. and want things to continue... SOMEONE NEEDS TO "GIVE IN". Sorry for the yelling...trying to get the point across.

I've been in relationships where both were waiting for the other to either say sorry, or give in and start talking again.

Trust me. If you like him and want a relationship.. go after him. I can't tell you the number of times I've swallowed my pride and said "I am sorry" even though I may not have done anything wrong. Someone needs to make the first move and tear down the walls that have been built.

It sounds like he wants to continue things with you, and you with him. Someone step forward and start the communication again. Admit that things were left in an awkward place and you're not sure where he'd like things to be/go. Then let him start explaining or opening up. Maybe he just needs the door to be opened, he may feel stupid for what ever problems there were and that he left without settling things correctly.

A lot of guys have this small little problem called Pride or EGO! A lot of us have a problem 'giving in' and trying to fix the problem. BUT if given the opportunity for the communication to be opened we jump right on in to fix it!

Give it a try and just be honest and open with him asking him what happened, and if he'd still like things to continue. What can it hurt?