he's nervous, i'm new... *confused*

[RosaMystica7]

Okay. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 weeks. We hug and kiss good bye... hang out all the time... but he's still nervous around me and I kinda freeze up around him. He's told me more than once that he's nervous around me. We talk really well online, but once we get together in person we both freeze up. We've talked online about how shy we are around each other and how we can't figure out why... and he's told me that sometimes he just wants to grab me and give me a 'deep passionate kiss' as he said but he's scared. He said he was going to today cuz he really wants to but it scares him. I told him I've wanted to really kiss him a few times but I was afraid it would scare him away, and he said 'there's no scarin me away' so... Does that mean I make the first move here? I haven't had a boyfriend in ages! (He hasn't had a girlfriend in 2 and a half years tho.) So... what do I do?:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

[TroubleX2]

Go For It!

It sounds like both of you are timid and not real bold, which is fine. BUT someone needs to make the first move. I think that once that first move is made a dam will break and you'll both lose that shyness and fear of the first move.

ENJOY!

[RosaMystica7]

LoL thanks trouble... i guess i should. I'm afraid I'm gonna screw up tho. :looko: Well, I'll keep ya posted.

[Kaisharga]

Aw, come on. Just do it. Grab him, kiss him, planting him against the wall, and just go with near-reckless abandon. Such are the makings of a TRULY passionate kiss. Surprise him, and most of all, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT MESSING IT UP. He will enjoy it, trust me, no matter how you go about it.

Although, I wouldn't recommend doing it with a lot of people around, heh.

--Kaisharga

[RosaMystica7]

Nobody else around... most of the time when we see each other is in school, toys r us (we love playing in toys r us), or sports plus or something. I dunno it's hard to get him alone unless we're in his truck, and there's that center divider between the two front seats LoL.

My other problem is... well... he's my first boyfriend, and I've never exactly kissed before so... I don't... really... know what... to do... :clown:

[Kaisharga]

How about this--get out of the truck when you're at a destination (taking you home or even in the toys 'r' us parking lot or whatever) faster than he does, and as he gets out, press him against his truck, and from here you have two options (now that you've said you never kissed)--you can go for it and try your hand, er, face, at kissing and just go with it, or you can say in a sexy-i-want-you-now low-to-whisper voice, "Kiss me. Now."

I'm sure he'll get the hint. ;)

--Kaisharga

[RosaMystica7]

LoL I think he has the same idea. We were leaving sports plus Sunday morning... at 12:30am LoL... and he opened up my door for me and stood in front of it and just looked at me and kissed me. But he screwed up (landed almost on my nose), turned red, tried to smile, and got in his side of the car. Considering he hasn't had a gf in over 2 years I'm supposing he either hasn't kissed anyone yet or hasn't in a long time. So I was a good girl, I smiled back and made sure not to make any sign of laughing. He tried, it's the thought that really counts. :D

For some reason I can't picture myself pinning him against his truck and telling him to kiss me now but it's starting to sound like a good idea. :bouncy: Hehe could be fun. I hate being shy though. :wall: Hmm. He took me to one of his favourite places a few weeks ago. There's a spot in the back of a restaurant parking lot that overlooks the entire lake (about a 5 minute drive from our houses) that looks awesome lit up at night. Maybe if I ask him to take me there and then get out of the truck to get a better view he'll get the hint?

[Kaisharga]

For more intimacy at the expense of a little of that fun unbridled passion stuff, go for kissing on the cheeks, then move on to his lips. Things will usually find their own way from there. Of course, you could always do the cute/naive thing and say "I really don't know how to kiss, i've never had a bf before...could you show me? *cute eye-blinks*"

--Kaisharga

[RosaMystica7]

hmm... okay... i'm not sure when the next time we could hang out is... i'll try to plan something tho. thanks for the advice, i'll let u know how it goes. :) I wish I weren't so nervous tho. *sigh*