Flirting & Clubbing [Archive]

Travolta

05-24-2001, 11:12 PM

Invested in some nice clothes for the nights that you go out to bars. Even a football players saves his best gear for the big game.

Show up a little bit early and hang around close to the entrance so
that you can see what is coming and going. Don't sit, be mobile. Drink a bit, maybe a shot of tequila or get a long island ice tea. This makes you relax, but try not to have more than one drink per hour. A little bit of
liquid courage is good, but getting drunk doesn't help at all. Have some
breath mints to keep your breath from getting stale.

Hanging out close to where the ladies restroom is can be good, too. They all have to piss.

When it comes to most bars, the ratio is usually about one woman to three guys. That is the bad news. The good news is that about 2 of the 3 guys have no balls at all and will mostly do lots of staring and the 1 of 3 that does have balls has no clue. The 1 of 3 will also include the hunk that lands everything, but that is still ok because he can't be with all the gals in the entire bar.

When I spot a woman I like, I usually check to see where she is sitting and with whom. I don't usually go after a women that is with another guy because that seems to sometimes cause fights. If you want to do that, take some self defense lessons and always take the first punch.

On ocassion the woman that is with another guy can be caught by herself and it is up to you to take opportunity here and make yourself known. This has worked for me when she shows up another night by herself and she recognizes you from before.

After you spot a target, try to get to her as soon as possible. You don't want the chance that some other guy will beat you to her. If you see that she is being asked to dance by lots of guys, don't ask her to dance. Ask her something else besides dancing. Talk to her about her clothes or about her hair or something like that. When I ask a woman to dance, I never say, "would you like to dance?" I am not asking, I say "let's dance." If she says that she doesn't want to dance at that time, go off on a conversation. She should start some kind of conversation with you. Don't be impatient. If she doesn't ignore you, but she doesn't say much, come back later and see if she will dance with you.

Sometimes a woman will only dance with guys that she knows and she doesn't know you. So if you ask again the next time you see her, maybe the next Saturday, and you remind her of where you last met her, she will dance or talk to you.

Show confidence. Don't be afraid. They are only women. Have fun.

Hopefully, you can dance. You don't have to be Ricky Martin, but being able to shake your butt to the music is good.

If you are dancing with a woman and she will not make eye contact with you, just walk off the dance floor. They will not come up to you after that, bitching about why you left them. It is obvious that she isn't into you.

It is a game of numbers in a bar and you can use this to your advantage. Talk to ALL of the woman that you like in there. If I talk to
one hundred woman and one of them falls for me, I am there. I only need one. Well, I only need one that night.

In a dance bar, the music can be really loud so try to keep any
conversation light and witty. You need to be funny. If you aren't funny, get funny. If you don't dance but engage in some kind of conversation, comment on her hands and by all means touch them, gently. Look right into her eyes and don't look away. Hold it. Get close and use the excuse that the music is too loud if she asks why you are getting so close.

Get your body next to hers and touch her arms. Accidently rub her shoulder. Touch as much as you can get away with without having her bat your hand away. If she does that, you need to retreat. Get it?

Remember to wear a nice cologne that smells good. It works for me.

As for phone numbers, I never carry a pen. Most of the time I throw them away and I never give my number out. I find it to be a waste of time for me.