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Vincenzo
11-15-2001, 04:50 AM
After having a crush on one of my ex's friends for a while 4 weeks ago i found myself alone with her... she seemed very nervous and upon asking her why she reavealed to me that she had liked me for some time but was too afraid to do anything because of my ex they are now best friends and for the past few weeks i have been trying to woo her and convince her that it is wrong to share the incredible feelings we do for one another and not give them a chance - as i have never met someone as amazing as she before. Over the next few weeks we spoke quite a bit and the crux arived when i sent her roses, a love letter and black cherries - her favorite fruit at work. She was overjoyed braging even to my ex in front of me about her amazing "secret admirer". However i decided that in order for us to seriously continue i should see how my ex felt about the idea, she is in love with someone else BTW. She was not very keen on the idea and depite purposely keeping the details of me and her friend's contact a secret to not jepardise their friendship questioned her friend the next day about it despite promising to me to not say anything.... basicly i am at aloss as to what to do this girl thinks i am unbelievable which frustrates me alot, not because i want someone to make me happy but to make someone happy... How can I work things out with her??????????????????

Kaisharga
11-15-2001, 04:18 PM
It sounds to me like you're trying to please everyone at once. Which is admirable, but not really all that practical. You need to figure out your priorities--your ex is going out with someone else, so why should you be unable to? It's not like she owns her friend or anything.

However, you should make sure this situation is known to the friend. Maybe she's not conscious of how jealous your ex could get, and hasn't thought of the possibility of their friendship coming to an end. (insert rant about Why Does It Even Matter to the Ex??) All in all, if she knows of this risk but still wants to go forward with your relationship, who are you to deny the girl?

--Kaisharga :flippy: