When's He Gonna Ask?

[PsYcHiCcHiCk67]

hi, okay....I'm fairly new at this, so pleeeaaassseeee bear w/ meeh.... Well, i better get to the point. I'm in 8th gr., where asking out is the "highlight of our youth" LoL well there's this 9th gr.er, and i have a BIG crush on him...:blush: well, he doesn't go to mai skool of course, and i only see him once a week, at church, which is where i met him. We chat the rest of the time, and i've known him for about....a month and 2 weeks.

Well, he's lyked meeh, and I've lyked him, but mai question is....when is he going to ask? and am i allowed to flirt w/ other people while i'm waiting? once he asks, i would NEVER flirt w/ anyone else, becuz that's one of mai "golden rules". Well, i dunno if it seems lyke i'm pressuring him, but i don't wanna. I told him about all mai friends telling MEEH to ask him, but...no offence..but er....the gurl not asking out is sumthing i don't do either. I don't want to force him into this, and i'm trying to be patient, but i feel....lyke i mite beeh getting the signals mixed up?!

Yes, every nite we flirt and stuff, and he calls meeh princess, i call him hottie, stuff lyke that...but, i dunno if it's JUST flirting. Can i please have peoples opinions? thank you.:love:

[afura]

Don't wait for him to ask, you ask him. Were does it say that a guy must ask the girl.

[PsYcHiCcHiCk67]

oh ok, I kinda knew that's whut i should do...but i was.......unsure. but....whut if he says no? or he's not ready? I haven't asked a guy out in....in soooo long....*gulp* :wacko:

[afura]

who cares if his ready, every guy who has reached puberty want's a girl.

[PsYcHiCcHiCk67]

okay....*sighs* since i brought up the subject, i feel that u peeps should deserve to know whut happened... here i go...*grabs a wad of tissues*

okay, let's see. just tonite, i was ready to ask him. but i wanted to know first, if he was still into the idea of lyking meeh. He had seemed pretty distant earlier today, so i was unsure. I asked him tonite, if he still lyked meeh (over the internet) ....and there was this loooonggg pause....i could kinda tell what was coming...

the first thing he said, was "sorrie". Then he explained that he wasn't ready for a relationship, and that he couldn't even keep up w/ skool....all of this was pretty much of a blur, because i had already started crying (hence, this face: :bawling: ) he kept apologizing, and i kept saying it's okay, even if inside, i was screaming "how is this possible?!?!?! what did i do wrong?!?!?!" I had to do sumthing, so i said g'bye. and signed off.

I cried for about 15 min., and went for a showa. and here i am, writing to acme....filling all of u in. i was wondering...if it's not too much trouble, if anyone has any, supportive thoughts? or...if i took whut he said the wrong way? or...anything....

[afura]

I'm very sorry to hear that it din't work out, and I know what it feels like to get rejected, but you'll just have to forget about him and move on. Your still very young and I'm sure that you'll find MR. Right. Girls don't have anywhere near as much trouble getting a boyfriend than a guy has getting a girlfriend. trust me. I hope you feel better soon.

[PsYcHiCcHiCk67]

i just wanna say thanx. i kno other people have viewed this board, but a special thanx to u "afura". u've taken the time to help meeh, and i appreciate it. thanx! :love:

[AngelfireDragon]

I know it hurts when a guy rejects you. (oh, lord do i know). However if one rejects you, once you get over the pain of the rejection move on. Truthfully a lot guys are scared of having a relationship. Espicially in any age below college.

The good thing about rejections (there is a brightside although i know from experience it won't be apparent until the pain heals). You get to look for a new better guy. The love of my life in high school rejected me in favor of my best friend. And he lied and convinced my best friend to lie to me about it, so while everyone else knew, i didn't. After discovering this i was heartbroken. I loved himwith all my heart and he didn't love me in return. The great thing about it was i was later able to see the flaws in him that before i had glossed over and discovered i was glad i never had dated him because if i would probably have married him at some point and never been as happy as i am now. The boyfriend I have now is so wonderful and i would have missed put on so much if i had never met him.

So to make a long story short, Mr. Right is out there, but until you find him don't forget to have fun.

[minxyminxyminx]

Aww you poor physic chick, I know where you are at, and i assume most of the people in this world have been in your situation at least once in their lives, so its not your fault at all or else it would have only ever happened to you.
The worst thing about rejection is that in order to feel rejected, you must have put the other person on a pretty high pedastal, I know with me I think that they are the only one with the qualities that I like and that no one else will ever compare... But the strange thing is that life really does suprise you and you will meet new people and if things go wrong with them you will think that no one will ever compare to the new person you just lost, and so on. Until you look back you dont notice that you have met new people who are far better than the ones you have lost. Hope I am making sense.