Are girls intimidated by these types?

[reignman]

I have a theory that most females are intimidated by certain types of men.

A) A guy who looks better than them.

B) A guy who isn't a follower

C) A guy who sticks to his opinions and won't back down

D) A guy who's doesn't have sex on his mind 24/7

E) An above average intelligence

F) Introverted guys

G) A guy who can one up them in a game, competition, ect.

H) Respectful

I) average confidince.

There are reasons why I believe this, and one is from noticing the typed of men women go for.

From junior high to the work force you almost can automatically tell which guys get's his fair share of women, and which ones chicks usually avoid. Not because they aren't attractive, or dim witted jerks who can't conversate with anyone.

But because they are not doing what the rest of the guys who get attention do.

Now I know like always we have the same people who come into topics without fully understanding the point, and will say not all girls are like that....... However I'm not talking about the exceptions to the rule. Which there are, but it's very rare and in America Majority rules.

[Patsfan75BC]

Interesting...........

[ajvv628]

holy krap u just described me. aww man i dont want to be intimidating. thats probably why this girl i think likes me wont tell me.

[IKnowWhatToDo]

I feel you. Most of the girls that I know seem to be attracted to jerks. It does seem as though girls are attracted to jerks. I Would love to come across a guy that is intelligent enough to keep up with me during conversation without thinking in the back of his head if he is going to have sex with me or not.

Speaking as a female, I don't think its intimidation. I think its

1. A lacking of men with the qaulities described above.
2. Most of the guys that have these qaulites won't even tell you they like you no matter how many advances made
3. I've noticed that females like drama. Which is the reason that I personally hang around guys.

So correspondence to what you wrote:

For A: Statistically women go for the opposite sex that is below average or just about as good looking as them

For C:Who wants somone that is too opinionated. If you won't back down then that ususally makes you difficult to talk to.

For F: Don't be introverted girls don't want to bash you head in to get anything out of you

For G: No one likes to be a loser on any level

All the rest of what you wrote I agree with you 100 percent

[Miss Direction]

If she's NOT ATTRACED to you, NOTHING matters anyway on your list of asking the girls.

HOWEVER.....the only thing a woman is INTIMIDATED by or will make her be at her man's beckon call all the time is his ability to flex his nuts and keep her in line.

The rest of your questions are garbage. You must from time to time yank that little chain and remind her that just because she has a puzzy and other men may want her, you wouldn't be hurt the slightest and could find a chick 10x hotter if she were to leave tomorrow.

[reignman]

Well since we don't know wether she is attracted or not; We will just assume. Unless your at the same exact moment in time and same exact place as I am.

Secondly my questions aren't garbage, they aren't even questions they are opinions.

I made one question which isn't exclusivly for females because I know I would be setting myself up for biased answers.

[LaB]

Girls are the same way sometimes. Women have bitched about guys needing to open up for the longest time, and funny part of it is that most of the time women will not tell you exactly what they are thinking because of stupid ass reasons like they dont want to hurt you or its rude, etc...

[Miss Direction]

LaB is right, but they use that awesome "feeling" power of thinking to continue wanting to be around you, then again....label you as an ass when you tell them to take a hike.

You have enough friends, and if they whine about that....it's their problem, not yours.

To the OP....you should be able to tell if she's attracted to you, just look/read her body language.

It's actually quite simple.

[reignman]

I Hear you Lab, I know exactly what they do. They hold on to the double standards they feel will benifit them.

MD I could care less if some girl isn't feeling me, my life goes on.

This post is about making youngin's realize what girls say they go after on the internet and what they actually go for in real life is the total opposite.

Basically if she like you or not is not the problem, the problem is if you are either one of those guys I described, most likly she will be too much of a chicken to go after you.

[quirkyalonegal]

A) A guy who looks better than them.
I can be if I don't know him but if he's a friend, then no...

B) A guy who isn't a follower
Depends...if everything is his way and no other way, then buh-bye...to me every relationship is a give and take...

C) A guy who sticks to his opinions and won't back down
Not intimidation, but if he is being an ass, then I won't stick around (but it goes both ways) but it all depends on the situation and if it's all the time or something he feels very strongly about.

D) A guy who's doesn't have sex on his mind 24/7
I haven't met a guy like that yet--not to say they don't exist, I just haven't met one yet

E) An above average intelligence
I have been intimidated but only because I didn't feel I was intellectually as smart as he was.

F) Introverted guys
Are we talking about shyness or literally just not talking?

G) A guy who can one up them in a game, competition, ect.
I'm a good loser :weyes:

H) Respectful
Intimidated by respect? Heck no...more like: heeeeeeeeeeey...

I) average confidince.
Having confidence is good so I'm not intimidated by that...I don't want a bendy boy who's only opinion is mine.

[reignman]

B) Depends...if everything is his way and no other way, then buh-bye...to me every relationship is a give and take...
No, I mean if he does what everybody else does women feel more comfortable. Ex wears the same clothes, does whatever the other cool guys do, ect.

Not intimidation, but if he is being an ass, then I won't stick around (but it goes both ways) but it all depends on the situation and if it's all the time or something he feels very strongly about.
Having your own opinion doesn't mean your an ass it means he just won't allow you to dictate his life.

I haven't met a guy like that yet--not to say they don't exist, I just haven't met one yet
They exist, it's just they won't be themselves because they know if your not talking about it ever second women will think your either gay, or you don't like them (hence the insecurity)

Are we talking about shyness or literally just not talking?
Shyness, but if your not talking just as much as he isn't then it's a 2 way street.

Intimidated by respect? Heck no...more like: heeeeeeeeeeey...
Yeah a lot of women are they think that's wussie behavior, most like to be disrespected because drama makes them happy, it's the in thing.

Having confidence is good so I'm not intimidated by that...I don't want a bendy boy who's only opinion is mine.

Confidence meaning they are not too boastfull or cocky, just enough to be humble. Don't tell me you women don't love that overconfident arrogant guy yall always seem to date. :dodgy:

[reignman]

Oh I forgot depending on the girl body type also intimidates them.

[Miss Direction]

Women don't like "confidence" and nothing else, for it's easily faked.

What their after is "lack of insecurity".

[reignman]

Women don't like "confidence" and nothing else, for it's easily faked.

What their after is "lack of insecurity".

Well then I wonder when they will reach a certain age wake up and realize everyone has insecurities even them :dodgy:

[Ivy]

HOWEVER.....the only thing a woman is INTIMIDATED by or will make her be at her man's beckon call all the time is his ability to flex his nuts and keep her in line.

I agree to an extent. Usually a woman stays with a guy who "keeps her in line" all the time for no good reason because she is inexperienced and has low self-esteem.

You must from time to time yank that little chain and remind her that just because she has a puzzy and other men may want her, you wouldn't be hurt the slightest and could find a chick 10x hotter if she were to leave tomorrow.

I notice you talk like this a lot. I assume you've had your heart broken a time or 2 and now you associate all females as stuck up bitches/hoes.

On top of that, your last comment above is hypocrtical. You're basically saying to control her from thinking she has power and can get other men, yet at the end of that very sentence you say how you could get another girl that's hotter. Sounds similar to me! If the girl you're with is that threatening, why are you with her in the first place (rhetorical question)?

All I'm saying, is don't talk like you have a big head and this attitude of "i hate females b/c they're bitches". You probably have no good reason for it....and if you do, I'd LOVE to read about it.

[Miss Direction]

Women are emotional creatures Ivy, you're about as dumb as a pail of rocks. To take any advice/opinions from you, I feel for the receiver. Women become ADDICTED to emotional chemicals that make them want and addict them to somebody/something. This is why women LOVE to be "treated" like crap.

Women don't make up their mind who their ATTRACTED to, it's either there or it isn't. If you're calling me blunt, you obviously don't have a clue as to what's really going on. If I'm so stupid and don't know what's going on, please go over to the Dating forum and elaborate on the "Question for the Guys/Girls" thread. Please try and prove me wrong there. Go, do it! LOL!

Women are drawn to men who keep them in line because their looking for leaders and men (like yourself) who won't let them wallk all over them. Usually, the self-esteem issues have other dealings and reprocusions. If you would know a clue/thing or two about psychology, that would ring a bell. Why do you people spout off your mouth when you don't know what you're talking about? Come on....LOL!

Ivy...while you're busy trying to play house, quit like everybody else seems to think they have to do when their a woman,....and that's thinnk with you're feelings. TRY LOGIC!!!!! LOL! TRY to NOT TAKE THIS PERSONALLY....AND REALIZE THAT YES, FEMALE ARROGANCE MAKES YOU WHAT YOU ARE.

Usually, nine times out of ten, the women who are the quickest to label a man as being bitter are the total that and then some on their end.

K?

Bitter?
Hardly...........

Tired of stupidity........YES!

[Ivy]

You can't prove anything yourself. I don't know why you're SO stuck on this notion that women operate ONLY on the chemicals in their mind. You talk as if women and men are worlds apart.....we're really not THAT different in GENERAL.

Maybe you should try and open up your mind a little bit. I told you myself that I agree with you to an extent, but you respond back to me by basically calling me ignorant. No, I'm not taking it personally, and believe it or not, women do think logically too.

Inexperience and low self-esteem DOES have A LOT to do with why females stay in bad relationships. You can come back with your logic all you want....or we can take a poll....whatever floats your cute little boat. A lot of times, the girl will think no one else will "love" them or they even worry about who will care for the guy if she was to leave.

Now, the 2nd half of my last sentence, YES, I can see your theory about females working off of feelings.....but you really can't ignore that women like this are (here come those 2 words again) INEXPERIENCED and have LOW SELF-ESTEEM.

You know so much about physc., then you should know the fundamentals of human behavior too. I'm not "labeling" you bitter....I was simply saying it's usually people who hold grudges that talk as you do. I'm not attacking you, so don't take it that way. Besides, reading my post, getting angry/offended, and retaliating is acting on feelings.....kinda woman-like, eh?

[chicagurl]

yes that kind of a guy would be intimidating to me
but attractive

If he came up to me and asked me out...I would say sure... but..i am so shy so he would Really need to ask me before I loosen up around him

there is this guy I like and he is So intimidating but again he is attractive
and I really want him to ask me out

[LaB]

This

"without thinking in the back of his head if he is going to have sex with me or not"

Is not going to happen...you do not understand men at all. If your even remotely attractive we do not want to intially just talk with you and become your friend. The men that do that just dont know how to get in bed with you.


Ivy- Im gonna let you in on a little secret about men around my age (this probably includes MD). We like to get laid, we dont really want relationships because most women our age are F'ed in the head. We also like to get laid by attractive, young women. So with this established the ideal that we are looking for is young, attractive, inexperieced, with low-self esteem for the easy lay, because thats all most us really want (no strings). I know how it looks and i dont care. Thats what your dealing with till more women straighten up and get their heads on straight. Women play games, men play games... deal with it.

Maybe this will help you understand where MD is coming from a little more.

And chucgrl (or whatever it is) why dont you ask him out and maybe gain a little bit of understanding of what men have to go through. The "im intimadted" or "scared" thing is retarded. You will never mature unless you grow some balls (in a sense) and go for what you want.

[Ivy]

Ivy- Im gonna let you in on a little secret about men around my age (this probably includes MD). We like to get laid, we dont really want relationships because most women our age are F'ed in the head. We also like to get laid by attractive, young women. So with this established the ideal that we are looking for is young, attractive, inexperieced, with low-self esteem for the easy lay, because thats all most us really want (no strings). I know how it looks and i dont care. Thats what your dealing with till more women straighten up and get their heads on straight. Women play games, men play games... deal with it.


I'm quite aware that a lot of guys "around your age" want to get laid with no strings attached. I understand that concept and have done it myself even.

I was talking about actual "relationships"....long-term ones....that should have ended within the first 6 months to a year. But they go on because the girl (and sometimes guy) is too chicken$hit to leave. And they're too chicken$hit to leave because they have this belief that no one else will love them or they feel guilty for "hurting" the boyfriend. That's what I'm talking about....you know?

As for a girl who thinks a guy should love her to have sex and all that related crap, I completely agree with you. Guys want to get laid.....girls do too even though some will deny that fact. It all depends on what your mindset is....single or wanting a relationship.

[Miss Direction]

Again...
We're blessed with the ignorance of Ivy.

If you go into each meeting and interaction of the first few times with somebody in a "relationship" state of mind, you really already shot yourself in the foot.

Men, need to qualify women, that's the bottom line.

No wonder there are so many f**ed up people out there, their jumping and settling for something that they have no clue about.

Again, MD wins and Ivy looks dumb again.

What else is new?

[Ivy]

If anyone looks dumb, it's your sarcastic a$$. When did I ever say in EVERY SITUATION?? I KNOW that a relationship does not start with a "relationship" state of mind. I KNOW THAT AND NEVER ARGUED AGAINST IT. But if you knew how to READ, you would have known that.

Why do you think everytime I talk we're in competition?

I was simply telling you that people's opinions on things form from their past experiences.

You're impossible to talk to.

[Miss Direction]

Perhaps you should learn to logically write what you mean then instead of expecting us to guess at it Ivy.

Look at what's going on here ladies & gentlemen! Even though we're not dating, even Ivy can't help but get sucked into all the drama.

I'm just teasing her and ripping her apart repetively because everytime she opens her mouth/types a reply, it's just too easy to do it when she's putting her foot in her mouth for me.

Now then....who is the dumb one? The one that makes up stuff and just "expects" you to interpet her womanesse ways of thinking by ESP, or the one that ask questions to clarify WTH is going on?

Not real hard, is it?

[Ivy]

LOL You know what?? I got this thread and another one I wrote to you on mixed up.

When I was referring to the whole "people get opinions from their past experiences", I wrote that in another thread to you recently....and got mixed up.

It was this thread: http://www.acmelove/forums/showthread.php?p=38929#post389 29

Yeah yeah, go ahead. I'm waiting for your insults cuz I know you'll be ALL OVER this.

But still, my first post talking about why girls stay in unhappy relationships was still clear.

I also told you that I know very well that you don't meet someone new thinking "hey i'm gonna get serious with him/her". I know that, MD. People want to get laid. I know that too. Damn.

Really though, MD. I'm seriously just trying to talk with you. I'm not trying to have a sarcasim contest with you.

[reignman]

yes that kind of a guy would be intimidating to me
but attractive

If he came up to me and asked me out...I would say sure... but..i am so shy so he would Really need to ask me before I loosen up around him

there is this guy I like and he is So intimidating but again he is attractive
and I really want him to ask me out

Exactly he is intimidating to females, which is the reason why women always want men to do the asking because they are scared.

No matter how attractive he is, it won't work because the only way you would take a chance is if he chased you, otherwise you would just sit there and be petrified.