How to proceed??? PLEASE help by Friday!

[NeedHelpBadly]

Ok, I'm going to make this as short as possible because I don't want to waste to much of your guys' time. I work with this girl, I'm 19, she's 21. We've gotten fairly close as far as a working relationship goes but have never really done anything in the past outside of work. I'm just getting out of a short relationship with someone and she's getting out of a longer-term relationship. We talk a lot whenever we get the chance and I was hoping to ease into a relationship with her. (I KNOW, that isn't the right way to go about doing it but we were both in relationships when we met...we just hit it off.) I've run into a problem though, I'm changing jobs in a week and a half. I don't have any way of contacting her outside of seeing her at work and I get the feeling that it's now or never for me to try and get with this girl. The last day I'll definitely be working with her is THIS Friday.

Here's my question, how do I go about "making my move". I want it to be clear when I ask her to dinner, just the two of us, that we won't be going as friends. I don't want to be strung along playing the "friends" game. She's either into me or she isn't. She does little things like play with her hair when we're talking or drop her eyes when we make eye contact for a while so I think she may be interested but obviously, I'm not completely sure. I just want your guys' and girls' opinions on how to go about asking her out on a date while still making it clear that we aren't going out as just friends. I want a relationship. PLEASE PLEASE help me as soon as you can.

[nocturnal417]

My advice is don't go for the all or nothing routine. If you're only seeing her at work and you're not sure how she feels you're risking a lot. Now if you can hang around with her outside of work, even with other people present, and keep in touch than your odds are greatly improved. She'll also see how you act outside of work. Most people act differntly outside of work even if it's just a small difference. I suggest a more subtle approach so you won't make her feel awkward with a big yes/no decision. By asking her to hang out you can gain more insight as to if she even thinks of you as someone to hang out with which will indicate she may want more than that. Good luck to you

[ajvv628]

hey buddy ur a bit late he meant he needed it by march 11 2005.

[NeedHelpBadly]

Seems I got myself to far into the friend zone to get out. Thanks for the help though