Boyfriends Parents Are A Major Problem!!!

[sourlemon112]

Hi I Started Going Out With My Boyfrineds On August 2nd and then we had to break up because his parents dont like me!!! now the problem is they never met me they dont know what i look like but because of the face that i am 2 years older then him they dont want him to have anything to do with me!! Now He Recently asked me out again and of course i said yes but whenever im on the phone with him i have to use a fake name we cant hang out aoutside of school and practice. I dotn knwo what to do!! He has tried talking to her but it hasnt helped!!:mad:

[Kaisharga]

Why can't you hang outside and 'practice' whatever it is that you practice, if they haven't seen you, ever?

...nevermind, let's get on with an answer. Have you told your man to talk to his parents AT LENGTH and RATIONALLY about this? A comparison between your ages and his parents' ages might help; it's likely that they're not the exact same age, either--heck, my own parents are 5 years apart.

Wait, there's a really easy solution to this. They've never seen you, you use a fake moniker...
maybe you could introduce yourself as his new gf, who happens to be only about 6 months older than him?

Of course, the method of having him question his parents' strange decision and getting a real explanation is tops on the list, and I really discourage you from doing the lying thing, but it IS there for you to exploit. Just be very very careful.

Or, maybe you could just be 'friends' with him, at least as far as his parents know. You just hang out, play games/sports/whatever it is that you do, normal friend stuffs. The parents will never have much of a basis of objection, and you'll get to know your man better anyway.

--Kaisharga, Master of Digression

[Aprilsky]

well I really feel for you, I know how it is when the mom doesn't like you. I was with a guy for a long time and his mother hated me because she said I was too quiet, and a few other things that aren't important. But anyway I tried everything to get her to like me, but I finally realized that I like myself and I'm not gonna change for anyone. Eventually she just had accept the fact that I was with her son, and there was nothing she could do to change the feelings we had for eachother.
So anyway here's my advice
have your man sit down with his mother and say "I know you don't think I should be dating someone 2 years older than me, and I understand where you are coming from, but please try to understand my point of veiw, I really like this girl, when it comes down to it, age has nothing to do with it. Please give her a chance because either way, my feelings won't change."

Note: Now if he's under 18, i doubt that method will work, but hey i tried

april

[Valdene]

Hey

We'll at least you know why the mother doesn't like you. I'm in the same boat as you. Only it is the father that doesn't like me and nobody can tell me why. You can go read my post.

I feel a bid better already knowing that I'm not the only one with this problem.

O by the way - in the beginning my boyfriends parents liked me alot. It was his mother that said he should go for me??????

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