guys - why wouldnt you call???

[haggis10]

okay this is really for the guys - you met a girl, you like her find her attractive and start flirting with her. You always try to get her attention, act all goofy to make her laugh tease her terribly, stick things on her back just to touch her, walk past her close so you brush in to her, but are also very nice to her and attentive make sure she is ok and stuff etc etc - you really like this girl.

but maybe you dont know how she feels -

so first things why would a guy change overnight with you - after being like this with her you start ignoring her, avoid eye contact and being grumpy with her??

secondly say she approaches you asks you what is wrong and you tell her its nothing and you make friends with her again - and then she leaves you a note asking you for a drink and her phone number - why would you not call her. remember all the effort you made before - so what has changed?

when a guy does not call is it that he simply is not interested or can there be other reasons??

okay there may be thousands but say your phone hasnt been cut off and you havent lost her number - what would make you not call a woman who you like??

the note tells you that she thinks your gorgeous - is that too much - would that put you off or turn you on??

guys - tell me what you can xxxxx

[Smitty]

question- did you ever address to him how you felt? during the time you two were flirting?

[haggis10]

yep - flirted back started touching a little back but held back because scared of getting it wrong and we and both at work too - i guess i tried to hide how i felt. let me say the day before he became grumpy etc was the day we had become more close - more touching more flirting more communication. but this was more on his half not mine i did not do anything that day to give him a better impression that i fancied him so its not like he found out i fancied him and then went off me. then the next day grumpy and then the day after that avoiding me and being very off with me - i am so confused by that.

[Smitty]

he may have "changed overnight" due to the fact that he was so open with you...and you didnt tell him how you felt or maybe he thought it was not going anywhere...

[haggis10]

perhaps your right about me not showing my feelings more however things where moving and given another week or so of that i guess there was only one way to progress too - maybe that freaked?? but why did he go to so much effort then when i left him the note he didnt call?? dont get it at all?? i feel for sure the amount of flirting, teasing etc and how nice he was to me he must have had some interest in me?

[quinny2244]

i know what you mean..i actually have gone through that with this girl..but ok so maybe he was really trying to open up to you and when you didnt tell him you liked him too he felt closure..maybe he thought this wasnt going to work out..now every time he sees you or talks to you on the phone he remembers that feeling that he got when he kept trying to get closer to you but you backed off..id just call him and comfront him. Id be like is there somthing wrong? and if it seems right tell him you like him too