Need Help!!!!

[NeonKnight]

Hi, I need help into getting this girl to like me. I dont know if she likes me. One time I wanted to ask her but my friend told me it was a stupid idea. Can someone please help me. I try to sometimes talk to her but shes with her friends or she half ignores me. Shes 2 years older than me and I dont knoiw what to do. Im not a really popular person in our school. Should I include any more information? I really need help with this because I like her a lot. Oh yeah, I ride the bus home with her if that helps. And 1 more thing, Should I call my friend and tell him to call this girl I like for him to ask her stuff like if she likes me?

[mrrocko]

First I'll state the obvious. No, don't call your friend and have him ask her questions and stupid crap like that. Very very immature. If you're planning on getting with a girl older than yourself, maturity will play a HUGE part in it. Girls generally date older guys and vice versa because of the fact that girls mature faster than guys for the most part. Don't worry about your "popularity". If that's all she likes/dislikes you for, she's a b!tch anyway. Just go up and have some confidence in yourself and talk to her. That is the only way to start things off. :drinky:

[TOASTMAN]

Hey morko buddy u took the words of my lips, i was just going to tell our friend here that girls usually dont date younger guys, but that can happen in a very rare condition which is that u 2, fall in love but reallllllllllllllll love i'm talkin about sacrifice for example over here! but as i told ya that's very rare. And good luck and if ur so confused i suggest if this girl isn't so mean, then go ahead and talk to her face to face but i have to tell ya the truth ur success percentage is 10%, cuz of many things. and good luck!

[NeonKnight]

Thanks for the info. Ok when I can talk to her. what do I talk to her about? We talk sometimes or just look at eachother in the bus. I mean I dont really have time in school to talk to her. But I see her every time on the bus and stuff.

[TOASTMAN]

yeah while ur both on the bus go ahead and sit next to her before someone does, and if someone does u ask her while ur not lookin at the whoever sitting next to her, and goodluck, and i hope u tell me the results!

[EvilFishy9999]

You can't get a girl to like you once the dynamics of your relationship are already set.

ie, she's probably already ruled you out as a possible boyfriend, so you've pretty much got no hope. Sorry.

[TOASTMAN]

there is always a chance, but urs is only with charming words and real feelings, so try to take the step and follow ur heart, but mind is always important in order to not take any idiotic actions. good luck

[mrrocko]

You can't get a girl to like you once the dynamics of your relationship are already set.

ie, she's probably already ruled you out as a possible boyfriend, so you've pretty much got no hope. Sorry.

Very untrue perception of a situation. Though it is easier to get with a girl in a romantic way from the get-go, it is certainly not impossible to be friends first and progress from that. Both long-term relationships I've been in have come from friends first and couple later. One lasted a year and a half and the other girl I'm still with now. I've found that it saves so much money and effort if you befriend the girl first, then "hook-up" with her as you'll already know if she's worth getting involved with.

[EvilFishy9999]

Yes, I was generalising. Speaking from my own experience & those of people I know, what I described is almost always the case.

I'm willing to bet I'm right in this case, since the guy is a fair bit younger than the girl, which makes it even less likely she'll consider him as boyfriend material.

And the fact that he has to ask strangers on the internet for a plan of action makes it even less likely he'll be able to change her mind.

[LaB]

I dont buy the girls mature faster thing. Ill buy that some individuals of either sex may mature faster than their peers.


Yes girls (18-22ish) generally date older guys because we are more mature....and we have money.

[Miss Direction]

>>>>>it is certainly not impossible to be friends first and progress from that. Both long-term relationships I've been in have come from friends first and couple later.

Yeah...
And you "waited" for them to come along, etc.

Listen....to avoid a woman taking you for an emotional rollar coaster ride, you more than likely have to get intimate with her right away. If you don't, she won't "feel it" and you already lost.

I've had one of those friends turned lovers things, and guess what....that was a real relationship. Too bad she had to go and cheat on me though, huh? Anyway....if you think that's just gonna happen everytime, you should probably clear your schedule for having dinner with Ghandi tomorrow evening.


>>>>because of the fact that girls mature faster than guys for the most part.

Now THAT'S funny!
Physically, yeah...I can buy that.
Mentally, emotionally, and personality....no way in hell! Try once they get to be turning the age of 25 or so.

[mrrocko]

I don't know about all of you guys in general but I can tell you for a fact that when I was in high school, so many of my friends and I would just do absolutely moronic things. We still do at times as a matter of fact. The thing is though, when around females, acting like a moron/immature is not the way to win their heart. It just doesn't work like that. Perhaps they don't mature faster per se, perhaps their entire mindset is just more mature...I don't know. I do know for sure that with my experiences, in order to attract a girl, acting like I do around friends of mine isn't the way to go...

[BandGuy76]

I see maturity as being able to take responsiblity for ones actions. It's being able to say "I'm wrong" or not feeling good when you get away with something. That would disqualify many men AND women from being mature.

What I think happens is that females relate to and adjust better to the setting of social norms. They learn quickly how to be in the social system, what to say, what not to say, how to act and so on. Guys, it takes us longer to realize that only we find our girlfriends farting to be funny.

From what I've seen, maturity starts to kick in on both sexes at around 25.