She said yes but she won't call me back

[EmotionSickness]

I finally worked up the courage to ask this girl out and this was also the first time I had ever asked any girl out. She said yes but when I called her to ask about the date she doesn't call back. I left 1 msg on her cell phone last night at 7 and another at 10 and then one today at 11. I gave her like so long to call me back because our date was suppose to be today at like 2 or something. But she doesn't call me back. Would any girl really say yes to going out with a guy and then just blow me off after saying yes? I didn't think she was the type of person who would do this so I thought maybe she lost her phone or couldn't pick up or something but its been a long time already... SO what should i do? I think I'm just going to stop calling today and Sunday and talk to her at school on Monday and ask what happened. Is that a good idea or should I call her back? Please give me some advice guys/gals im so depressed now that I don't know what to do.

[EmotionSickness]

someone please help me I need advice....

[endangeredsp]

She probably was scared to say no (scared she'd hurt you). I admit I'd done that. Bad, I know. One time I gave a guy my phone number and purposely changed one of the digits so he wouldn't get it right. I just didn't want to say no, he was such a nice guy.

But I don't really know what's up with her... Just try not be seem to obsessive. I wouldn't even say anything to her next time I see her. Wait and see if she approaches you with apologies or something.

If she doesn't, I'd leave her alone.

[EmotionSickness]

So I really shouldn't ask her anything about it? Yeah thats what I think happened too though. She knows I'm a nice guy but I'm sure she doesn't have any feelings for me. I thought I had just gotten lucky too... but I mean she even asked me what we were gunna do and told me when she could do it. And I called and just ended up leaving a msg on her voicemail. I just really wish she would say something to me you know... I'd rather know if she just doesn't like me rather than being in the dark about it. So should I not even say on monday like "hey what happened I thought we were going to hang out?". Should I just ask her if she doesn't like me? I really would want to know rather than not knowing. Do you think it would be ok to ask and what should I say if I do?

[BandGuy76]

Your learning that the world is a harsh place, full of harsh lessons.

If someone is not willing to have the time/energy/courage to call you back when you make the offer to take them out, they are not worth your time.

Start beliving that your time is valuable and that you have important things to do. If someone does not want to share that time with you, then thier belief's do not correspond with yours and it was probably not a good match anyway.

This is one of those times where you push your longing aside, square up your shoulders and say "oh well" and keep on walking.

[EmotionSickness]

HEY GUYS... I asked one of her friends what happened. I've been friends with him since like 1st grade and he said her parents grounded her from her phone so she thats why she couldn't call me back. Anyways I trust this friend so he wouldn't lie to me. I'm happy now but how should I go about asking her what happened on monday? Should I just see how she reacts when I say "what happened?" or should I just come out and say "I heard you got grounded from your phone, bummer" or what should I do?

[ajvv628]

yea id go with the "heard you couldnt use the phone" except she might wonder how you found out about it though.

[EmotionSickness]

Ok I talked to her today and she apologized and I asked when she would be ungrounded and she just said sometime later this week and didn't really seem interested in whether I wanted to do something or not.

Do you guys think I should just ride it out and see if she asks me first and if she doesn't just forget about it or should I just go ask her later this week?

[EmotionSickness]

I asked her today If she was ungrounded and she said later this week(like real unenthusiastically) then I was like oh so do you want to go do something, if you don't its cool also. And she replied "I dunno know"(real sad and unexcited sounding). So I think my chances with her are flat out dead by that reply.

I think I'm just going to give up on her because she doesn't seem to like me even the least bit. I don't hate her for it or anything. I think I'm just going to go with my gut on this one and just give it up. What do you guys think?

[BandGuy76]

Sounds like it is time to move on before you get too attached to a girl that doesn't feel the same way. Keep hunting!

[EmotionSickness]

Yeah I'm going to give up on this girl, I really liked her alot too. Most likely more than anyone ever in my entire life but I guess life doesn't always work out for everyone. Thanks for all you guys support and advice. I'm just going to move on :teleport: and try not to regret