HOW do you ask for a girl's phone #??? PICK ONE!!!

[co1vultures]

Hey I'm 21 and in college and there's theis girl in my class that sits on the opposite side of the room as me but on the same level and I always stare at her during class and I also catch her alot peeking at me too. Next time this happens I plan on smiling when I catch her....hoping she'll smile back! Cause we have both been jusy exchanging glances but haven't said a word yet, not even hi. We both seem shy. I want to go up to her after the next class and start a convo and get her number cause the class meets only ONCE a week on Wednesdays, which makes things tricky.

My questions are:

HOW do I apporach her after class without scaring her?
What do I say? Now that I know and she knows we've been staring at each other?
I want to get some kind of contact info. Should I get her # right away or go for a simpler, lighter approach by asking for her screen name or email address?
HOW do I ASK for a phone number?? HOW do I say it: "Hey I'll give you my cell number..." or "Hey would you like to exchange numbers?" or WHAT???? How should I ASK???? In words please...

Also, how do I end this convo with her after doing what I have to do?

Do you guys think she likes me?

THANKS so much for your help! I'm hoping to pull this off this week!

[Billybob911]

Home phone or cell phone?
If its home phone you mcould look it up in the phone book....I think

To me the hard parts not getting The girls Phone #...But what to say when i call her

[TheRev]

You're in college, can't you just look up her facebook?

[mrrocko]

"HOW do I apporach her after class without scaring her?"

There's two ways that I'd suggest, you can choose whichever you'd feel more comfortable with.

Option 1: You- "Hey you're (insert random female name) right?" Her- "Uh, no..." You- "Oh, sorry. Well, I'm (insert your name) nice to meet you"

Option 2: You- "Hey, I don't think we've met before, I'm (insert your name)."

"What do I say? Now that I know and she knows we've been staring at each other?"

If it was me, I wouldn't mention it honestly. I know some would use some sarcastic/cocky remark about this but I personally would not say a word about it. You made it clear by going over and introducing yourself that you are aware of the shared glances.

"I want to get some kind of contact info. Should I get her # right away or go for a simpler, lighter approach by asking for her screen name or email address?"

Honestly, I don't think it really matters. Either way, she's going to know you want to get in contact with her. I personally, would go for the phone number as it will save you an awkward moment later on if the relationship progresses.

"HOW do I ASK for a phone number?? HOW do I say it: "Hey I'll give you my cell number..." or "Hey would you like to exchange numbers?" or WHAT???? How should I ASK???? In words please..."

Now, this is the one where it could be tricky. Generally speaking, if you're going to ask for a girl's phone number immediately upon meeting her, you'd better ask to take her out somewhere right then. It just doesn't make sense to introduce yourself to a complete stranger, ask for her phone number and that's it. So, if you're going to go in that direction with it, ask if she wants to go somewhere with you and then, upon receiving a yes answer, respond "Alright, cool. How about you give me your phone number and I'll give you a call before we head out to (wherever you asked her to go)."

Now, if you don't want to ask her out right away. Then just avoid the phone number question and focus on interacting with her a lot more the next couple of times you are in the class. Lead up to the above scenario.

Side Note: I highly disagree with what BillyBob said. You'll look like a stalker if you meet this girl for the first time and then call her without her even knowing you have her phone number.

[co1vultures]

I would NEVER call a girl by looking her # up in the phone book that is so lame.

The MAIN Thing I want here is, since the class only meets once a week, I want to be able to talk to her outside of class during the week! I want to get to know her better, that's all. Then if I like her personality(I already like her lots), THEN I'd ask her to hang out.

So basically, I need to know how to approach her without scaring her, but ALSO knowing that I WANT to get her contact info cause I'd like to get to know her better.

[mrrocko]

Seeing as you're in college, surely there are different parties/activities you can go to. Personally, being in college myself, I prefer a party as opposed to a school activity so I'll go with that for the rest of this. I'd say go up and introduce yourself in whatever way you choose to, then upon having the formalities out of the way, tell her that a guy you know is having a party this weekend (whenever it is) and ask if she might want to go. Group environment yet ample opportunity to get to know her more. If she says yes, then ask for her number and tell her you'll give her a call and let her know when/where it's going to be. :drinky:

[co1vultures]

One problem mrrocko.......I am not a partier, and she doesn't look to be either.

I'd rather ask her to lunch or to the lounge room or something.

[mrrocko]

Well, to be honest, I'm running low on ideas here, lol. I always try to incorporate getting the phone number into the plan for what we're going to do. So, I guess what I'd do is ask her to lunch with you and then if you guys "click" get her phone number towards the end of lunch. If not then you'll know at least.

[co1vultures]

Hey mrrocko, do you have AIM or Yahoo messenger??? We have to talk more!!!!

[Spikeyz]

yeh definately stalkerish and if u do tht billybob i suggest u break the habbit.

If you do ask for this girls phone number dont say something like "Can i have your number" that immediately makes it sound like you dont deserve it in the first place



Spikeyz

[co1vultures]

Spikez, so how SHOULD I say or ask it???

[Spikeyz]

it all depends on when you ask her. if you are chatting to her normally for a little while just say something like "Ive got to go, but you seem nice, we should get together sometime" and just say "whats your number?" that way it tells her you know that you can have it, rather than the bumbling idiot approach that leaves you trying to remember where you left your balls.



Spikeyz