attached (?)guy, i like him, are we flirting?

[picadilly]

i met this guy when i was working in shopping mall, he-working in the store on the opposite. we started looking at each other, exchanging smiles, no conversation though. i felt like he really liked me, the way we were looking at each other was really meaningful.
on the day which was supposed to be my last day there i decided to take my chances and gave him my phone number when we were passing each other in the hall. he smiled and said thanks.
he didn't call me for the next week, but i came back to work after christmas for the next three days. and the situation was the same - looks, saying "hello" when passing by.
week later i was shopping at his store and when going out i said to him " i was wondering if you gonna call me" he said " well, i'm attached right now, you know".
i thought it was over, but few days later (another one-day-job) i caught him few times looking at me, the same situation repeated yesterday (another day at work for me) - few looks, "hello"...
i would be long time over this guy if only he gave me clear signs of being NOT interested....i can't say that i'm really in love with him, but...i totally like the way he looks, smiles, looks at me, the way he looks in his jeans etc... my friend who happens to know his sister, says he is rather shy guy, but i don't know if that's the problem.
i'm rather confused about this situation, any advice????

[Smitty]

I can completely relate to your situation...except that I'm a guy and its the other way around. I believe what it is is that they are interested in you, want to get to know you, but because they are "attached to someone else" its causing a problem. You may think you love him...but you have to ask yourself "How can I love him if i don't even know him?". Believe me I made the mistake of telling a girl I loved her before I even knew her. I thought there was a connection through the way she looked at me, did the things I did etc.- staring at me constantly. Then when I told her, she wrote me saying "How can you love me when you don't even know me?"
And basically it was just all down hill from there...
I say just let him know your interested and wait to see what happens...but don't feel bad if nothing does happen.

Hope things work out for you

[picadilly]

thanks :) i know i can't be in love with him since i don't know anything about him. just can't get him out of mind... you know how it is... all the time i feel there something in it, like "second bottom" ;)

[Smitty]

I'm feeling that again now and its like my second time around....Its just so confusing. You think that person really likes you( the connection you have between the two of you)...you try to talk to em and its like, nothing really happens. So then you wait and wait and continue wondering if something is going to happen until its too late.

I can only suggest to let him know your available...a friend of mine once suggested to just end the eye contact and see what happens.

But then again you cant get that person off your mind so its kinda hard..

[Miss Direction]

You want a man that's ATTACHED?!

TROLL!

That....and it just goes to show how dumb you are.

Chasing after taken men?

And you wonder why some women are labeled as they are...

Come on....

Even if he was breaking up with his current girlfriend, you're gonna be nothing but a cumdumpster to him and he'll do the same to you.

Again....dumb women typing out logical words when they do things according to their feelings and not logical thoughts.

Gotta love it!

[mrrocko]

You gave him your number...he didn't call. You saw him again, asked about his not calling...he still didn't call. He is being very clear that he isn't interested right now. I mean, you have made all the moves so far and he has yet to try and advance at all. Move on.

[Fireangel]

piccadilly I am in a similar position right now..all I can say is that, if he is with that particular girl is because they got a real conexion besides the physical. And you gotta hate it but, that's really important. It also means that he respects her cause even if he likes you phisically, he knows he likes his girl and knows he has to be truthful to her..I mean, having a girlfriend doesn't mean you cannot look at other women right? is the same for us women..not because we have a boyfriend it means we cannot look at cute guys and take a glimpse of their " cute jeans "..so just, be yourself to him...he's taken, therefore..just talk to him normal, if something happens in the future, great and if not, well you'll at least get to know if he is worth the pain...hope I helped : )

[picadilly]

thanx guys for the feedback :) basicly my friends give me similiar advices - move on/wait and see what happens
and just in my defence - i wouldn't start chasing him if I knew he was taken :agree:
p.s. I'm from Poland and in Polish we use the same word for "attached" and "busy" so maybe he just told me he hadn't had time for dating or something like that... or could it be that i did scared him off by being so straightforward...