shy boys? what to do about them...

[xx963]

Hello! I really need help! look, there is this guy that I have like for a loooong time... and i cant even talk to him.. im too shy but aparently he is too... my friend says that when im not looking he looks at me but i dont knowo if i should believe her because i just dont think that boys tend to do that where they stare and when you look at them they look some other place u kno?... there is also like... whenever i try to start a conversation with him, and when we are actually talking, i feel like if it is only him and me in the room talking and when he looks at me he is always kind of smiling and his eyes sparkle but i dont know if he likes me cause sometimes he can be rude and say things that hurt me without noticing... my friend says this is because he is too shy, so he doesnt know how to act around me because he doesnt know how i will react but i really dont know anymore so can you guys, and girls please help me with your opinions and tell me how could i approach him if he is very shy? and boys... please explain boy behavior to me because its driving me craaazey! like, what is it you guys or shy guys do when they like a girl to get her atttention.. be loud, or just say stupid thing ? I dont know! help! :ghost:

[rofflecopter]

what is it you ... shy guys do when they like a girl to get her atttention..

Absolutely nothing.

If you want to be his girlfriend you'll have to make the move, but don't be suprised when you find out he's a boring date. But Shy people are very interesting when they open up to you, which could be a couple months.

Edit: as a shy guy myself, knowing that it is custom for guys to ask girls out, I would be very interested in and admire a girl who asked me out. Just do it if it's what you want.

[Iplaybasketball]

As a guy, I'll tell you firsthand. if a girl, even a hot one, makes the move first, I almost always reject it even if I want her to. I don't know why it just feels wrong. but your shy guy doesn't seem to sound like me.

[bloom]

i dont see whats stopping u from telling him the way you feelm aabout him.i am a shy guy myself n thats the way i wud like a girl to act...u know.
go ahead,make ur move.

[xx963]

I know i should make the first move i am just too shy ... well i think im less shy and i really like this guy but i dont know how to approach him so that he will feel comfortable with me. How can i know if he is trying to get my attention or how could i get his attention... we were in class the other day and i was talking to this friend and like whenever he could he would just get in our conversation and start making comments and then he would go back to work... so yeah , i don tknow what that was! help! and hey, thanks for previous advice!

[bloom]

ok xx963, u said he sometimes comes into ur conversations with your friends,yeah?u know what,i think he likes you but also as shy as you are.
u know what they say about the patient dog eating the fatest bone?o.k,now... u really sound like a girl with good instincts;believe me ive seen my share of girls.all u need do is do what ur heart tells u to when u r around him.All u need do is take it one step at a time.tell me how all goes.....best of luck.

[xx963]

first of all, thanks you bloom for your advice, it was really helpful... okay so we were at this party, and i was sitting on a friend as a joke... and then this boy came and sat on me and at first i was like screaming as a joke and laughing and then the guy i like came and he was all like hey get off and he pulled the guy off of me ... so what was that ! help me !.... i really dont know how to approach him !

[bloom]

you know nwhat xx963?a guy you like just fell in live with u and cannot tell u so.Or what other xplanation could one have 4 his jelousy.
I told u.give him time n u will see,he'll come around.i tell u any guy who does that is head over heels in love with the girl.all u have to do is do things to make him want to show you those hidden feelings.
u know what write him a note telling him you like him n dont put your name on the paper...u know,make it kinda anonymous.
i have so many more tips 4 u.if you cud only give me your yahoo mail adress n we wud chat....he will be as good as yours.but hey,its o.k if u dont want to.i am always here 4 u.rememberrrrrrrrrrrrrr!

[xx963]

sure, send me a private message with urs if you have hotmail , better cuz my yahoo is weird... k ? thanks sooo much!

[xx963]

Hey, um... what does it mean if the boy i like is in my classroom and im one of the three girls he seats next to and he only tries to take my things, and try and talk to me ?... what does it mean when guys take ur stuff... like utensils and dont want to give them back ?

[Smitty]

Hey, um... what does it mean if the boy i like is in my classroom and im one of the three girls he seats next to and he only tries to take my things, and try and talk to me ?... what does it mean when guys take ur stuff... like utensils and dont want to give them back ?
Tell me this...do you both share a lot of eye contact?
Does he act nervous around you?

[xx963]

sometimes we do share eye contact and i wouldnt know if he acts shy around me, but when he sees that im being hurt by a friend or something he comes and hes like hey get off of her and stuff... and, he takes my things soo i dont know !!!

[reignman]

Hmm well I guess there is nothing to do with you two, yall both seem like yall want the other to ask and nothing is happening except you two walking past each other.

So I see nothing coming out of this thing except some flirting.

[IKnowWhatToDo]

You like him and he likes you. Great that has already been established and if you haven't figured that out by now then I think you need to stop trying to hook up with anybody untill you learn a little more about guys.

So far what other people have been telling you is correct. You should make the first move but if that doesn't work for you there a re number of things that you can do to get it in with him.

1. On a level of any kind try to interact with him in a personal way. Walk with him in the hallways get together with his friends and your friends OUTSIDE of school.

2. Talk to his friends or have your friends talk to his friends. NOT to him directly that is too obvious unless you don't care.

3. Invite him somewhere. Anyhwhere it doesn't matter. Your house the movies the mall ice skating sitting in the park whatever it doesn't matter.

4. Now if you have succesfully completed 2 out of the first three steps then you have had time alone with him. So when you are with him try to notice if he's giving the classic "I want to kiss you right now look" . If he has given it to you on more than 1 of 2 occasions then step up to the plate and kiss him.

PS try not to blab about it too much guys hate that type of stuff.