need advice, long story.

[kris]

In January the girl I thought I wanted to spend my life with left me. We had a long, messy break up. I thought I would never have feelings towards a girl again. A few months later I met a girl through a friend. For three days we talked and spent a lot of time together. Then she went to Spain for a month. I sent her letters and she did the same. I didn't even know her, but I couldn't get the look she has in her eyes out of my mind. When she got back to the states, she called me to tell me when she'd be back in town, she was at her parents house. Anyway, on her way home, she got in a car wreck. My parents happened to be in town that day. She called me from Houston, I'm in Austin, to tell me what had happened and when she expected to get back to Austin. She came back and immediately we started hanging out. She came over to my place a lot and stayed over a couple of nights(nothing happened). I had one problem, I didn't know how to act. It's been 4 years since I've dated. Anyway, things were going extremely slow. I told her twice how I felt without a real answer. Then one night we were both a little drunk and we had our first kiss. She came over. Nothing really happened, but at the same time a lot did. Nothing has happened since. This was a while ago. I vented a couple of times and she still calls me. I was an ass to her for a week, and she still calls. I don't know how to read her. A couple of nights ago I took her out. When I walked her to the door, she invited me in. We stood in her living room, close, talking and looking into each other's eyes. I wanted to grab her and kiss her again. I gave her a big huge, then she told me she wanted to start hanging out more. I felt like I should have kissed her, but I don't want to push or do anything wrong. I gave her another hug and left. Any advice??? What should I do and when should I realize I need to move on??

Thanks

Kris

[Kaisharga]

It sounds like you've already realized that. Now the problem is how to say that to her. Think long and hard about why you have to move on, and then tell her so. That's the best advice I can give.

--Kaisharga

[kris]

Well, I decided I was going to lay off for a while. This was last week, Friday. Saturday morning she called. She came out and met me that night. Then she's called first everyday since. She's what I want. I don't think I could make a more perfect fit. Like I said earlier. She has a special look in her eyes. The real problem I'm having is that this is almost exactly how my last relationship got started 4 years ago.

Thanks for the advice. We'll see what happens and I'll keep you posted :)

[Kaisharga]

So what's wrong with having a relationship start the same way? Who said that was a bad thing? Or that it couldn't be different this time?

--Kaisharga

[AngelfireDragon]

I know how you feel kris.


I have be burned many times by friends and boyfriends. some i still love. some i still hate.

But be fair to her and do your best not to compare the current girl with the ex-girl.

She's different. She's not the girl who hurt you and you need to give her a chance if you really care for her.


Kai can tell you that it hurts to be compared with someone's old loves, old friends, etc. That's what his gf does. How hard msut it be to be turned out, threatened, ignored, be treated coldy or have another person act like and ass because their old l;over hurt them so why won't you?

Think about how'd it make her feel.


--AngelfireDragon