What is Love?

[sparklingchicky]

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So what is love? How do you know if your in love? Can you be in love with someone whom your not dating?

I'm completly overwelmed by it all at the moment! I'm not going out with this guy but he is on my mind 24/7 litrally! I can imagine us together in the future and we have so much in common but we are not together cause of our shyness but that dosen't stop me loving him the way i do. I can be having a bad day and just seeing him makes me happy. If we only speak to each other for 10 seconds he brightens me up and puts a spark in my face. I've never felt like this about anyone before. I don't know what i'll do if i don't see him for a while i just seem to end up dreaming about him.

So what are the signs of being in love? How do you distinguish lust and love?

and.......

Does anyone believe in soul mates? or the fact there is one person in this world for everyone?

Thanks

[NHO3]

I could write a whole book just answering that question but it wouldnt help anybody. Love is something you have to experience and explore to really understand. How I experience it and what I think it is may be completly different than every other person on this earth. All human's are capable of being in love and experiencing love. You just have to explore any and all positive emotions and states of mind you have. If you think something is love then explore it. Ask the guy out if you think you have strong feelings for him. The only thing you have to remember is to not tell a guy you love him to soon. Men tend to get scared by those words.
When I was a kid I felt the way you just described in your post. I really really liked this one girl. It was a girl I had known for several years and then all of a sudden I felt like you do. I was shy and ignorant at the time so I never did anything about it. I could tell she felt the same thing for me but I never said anything to her about how I felt. Now I have to live the rest of my life wondering what could have been. Don't be afriad to live and experience life. Now that I think back on that situation I think I should have done something even if the result would have been negative I should have done something.

[ct63]

there is no description or explination and you may think your in love but when you finally find real true love you will know. I was married 21 years and thought I was in love. After my divorce I met my new man and learned what love really is. Love is alot of things, its self sacrificing, its unselfish, its pleasurable and yet its painful. When your in love you appreciate things you know and understand about that person. Love is not instantanious, true love takes time to grow and only gets deeper and stronger as time passes. Love is being able to be comfortable with someone, comfortable enough to fart or burp and laugh about it. There is a big difference between infatuation and love but when your infatuated its hard to tell there is any difference at all. Good luck in your search for true love.

[NHO3]

I agree with Ct63. I think what she said about infatuation is true and important.

Somebody once said when you can take a with your partner in the same room with you and carry on a conversation without interruption then your in love. lol sounds funny but it gets the point across. I dont remember who said that, it might have been a comedian. I love my wife but I don't think I would subject her to such torture as that lol.

Love sure is a fun and painful thing but its worth every minute.

[l4linda]

I don't believe there's only one person in this world for everyone. I think a person can be happy and in love with a number of different people in their lives, and that each came into their lives for a reason, to teach them something. I do believe in soul mates, I know they exist, because I have several of them. In Anne of Green Gables, they called them "kindred spirits," and I think that actually captures the meaning of soul mates better. But in terms of soul mates in a romantic relationship, I definitely believe in that, but again not that there's only one potential soul mate out there for a person that one is destined to find. I think there are many potential soul mates out there.

Lust, like infatuation, feels like love, but you might not know it's not unless you know what true love feels like.

You can tell if it's love by the way the person treats you. Because when you come down to it, "love" is actually a verb - an ACTION word, in addition to being a feeling. You can say you love someone all day long and explain the ways and reasons why in the most passionate and convincing ways, but unless you show it consistently in your actions and behavior it's empty and meaningless. When it is true love, there is no doubt, but it can still be scary as hell sometimes - sounds like a contradiction, but it's true.

[sparklingchicky]

Ok well i explained how this guy i think i might be in love with is with me and i had a thought today that the way we are together is like the way lorelei and luke are in gilmore girls except he dosen't date anyone and i haven't been dating anyone.

Just wanted to add that.
Thanks

[CaramelQT]

This only my opinion:

Love- is when 2 people can accept each other for who they are through good&Bad, thick&thin
Love- is when you can live together and meet half way and do things 50/50
Love- is not seeing yourself wit anybody else
Love- is not letting anyone or anything come in between
Love- is Respect, Understanding,Trust, Communication,Affection, and a warm feeling inside
Love-is planning a future together, sharing goals in life
Love-is making Sacrifices
Love-is more Happy than Sad&Mad moments
Love-is sometimes put before you
NOTE: You must feel this way Before&After SeX or Without material things

[chilli]

Believe it or not I have fallen in love with a GUY at work and being a guy myself, I am still in shock that this happened to me. I don't know if its true love but I do know that it's an emotion of love and I have never felt like this for anybody in my entire life...

So here is a poem that describes how you know YOU'RE IN LOVE....

You're in Love

You wake up and he’s on your mind
Another subject, you can’t find
You used to think it was just a bluff
But now you realize, you’re in love

You see him and can’t help but smile
Think of him for miles and miles
Weak in the knees when he comes through
You know his eyes see right through you

You don’t care what people say
You want to be with him all day
Seeing him you can’t get enough
And you can see that you’re in love!


I don't know if this means anything to you but I do know that guys like me who find the same sex attractive, usually get misjudged by people, just becoz their love is different!!!

[nathan]

Hmmm...

Hard one. I think when it comes down to it, love is just a word. What it actually is, is indescribable. Rather; it has infinite descriptions. From person to person, relationship to relationship the definition of love changes. So to say that love is a cut dry set of feelings; is incorrect. Because love is all feelings; positive and negative. At the end of the day; love is just a four letter word we use to describe a feeling nobody can aptly say what is.

All I know, is that when you are truly in love; you will know, without a doubt.