confused6464
11-24-2004, 08:10 PM
hey people, I'd be so unbelievably grateful if I could get ur perspective(s) on this because I can't talk to my friends because it involves them! sorry for the longness of this story but its so confusing!
Ok, to start off with my best friend was dating this guy, and me and him got on great. It wasn't like I had a crush on him or anything but he was like my best guy friend and hes just great fun to be with. We used to wrestle and tickle each other and just generally have fun with each other. A couple of weeks ago my friend and him split up, after about a year and a half, which was a shock because everyone always thought of them as "the perfect couple". Anyway, I know I'm a horrible person for this(aargh!), but about 3 weeks after they split I kissed him. We were in my bed hugging after a night out (so we were slightly drunk) and we kissed(for quite a long time). I said at the time "this is so wrong! we're bad people" and he just said "don't worry about the consequences" or something else to that effect. The morning afterwards we didn't mention it at all. Once he left though, I realised I have feelings for him. I don't know how long I've had them for, but they're really strong. It feels like love but it's probably just infatuation? Since then he's invited me into his twice and we lay in each others arms on his couch. But at halloween we were drunk and in the taxi on the way home I attempted to tell him I like him (stupid me!!) and all I remember him saying was "you're hot but..." and then I think he said something about not being over his ex. Then I got upset and left the taxi and he insisted on walking me home as I cried and told him to just leave me alone. A few days later I asked him if he was mad at me and he said no, and I asked him what I'd said and he said "you said something about kissing, and I said no because I'd feel bad". Since then he's been kinda hot and cold with me. Sometimes he's his usual flirty self and sometimes he just doesnt say anything to me. (does he just not want to give me the wrong idea?) The worst thing is tho, he's stopped hugging me :( He always used to look so pleased to see me and give me a big hug and now I get a smile if I'm lucky. Also, he never texts or phones me anymore, and spends more time with others so that I hardly see him. My best friend told me that a few weeks ago they almost slept together, but he stopped it and said it would be stupid so they didn't. Then he kissed a random girl at a club one night. I know I know, I should be thinking obviously he doesn't like me! Am I stupid to think anything will ever happen? Does he like me and just doesnt want to hurt my friend? What should I do?
Help would be much appreciated! ~xxx~
Ok, to start off with my best friend was dating this guy, and me and him got on great. It wasn't like I had a crush on him or anything but he was like my best guy friend and hes just great fun to be with. We used to wrestle and tickle each other and just generally have fun with each other. A couple of weeks ago my friend and him split up, after about a year and a half, which was a shock because everyone always thought of them as "the perfect couple". Anyway, I know I'm a horrible person for this(aargh!), but about 3 weeks after they split I kissed him. We were in my bed hugging after a night out (so we were slightly drunk) and we kissed(for quite a long time). I said at the time "this is so wrong! we're bad people" and he just said "don't worry about the consequences" or something else to that effect. The morning afterwards we didn't mention it at all. Once he left though, I realised I have feelings for him. I don't know how long I've had them for, but they're really strong. It feels like love but it's probably just infatuation? Since then he's invited me into his twice and we lay in each others arms on his couch. But at halloween we were drunk and in the taxi on the way home I attempted to tell him I like him (stupid me!!) and all I remember him saying was "you're hot but..." and then I think he said something about not being over his ex. Then I got upset and left the taxi and he insisted on walking me home as I cried and told him to just leave me alone. A few days later I asked him if he was mad at me and he said no, and I asked him what I'd said and he said "you said something about kissing, and I said no because I'd feel bad". Since then he's been kinda hot and cold with me. Sometimes he's his usual flirty self and sometimes he just doesnt say anything to me. (does he just not want to give me the wrong idea?) The worst thing is tho, he's stopped hugging me :( He always used to look so pleased to see me and give me a big hug and now I get a smile if I'm lucky. Also, he never texts or phones me anymore, and spends more time with others so that I hardly see him. My best friend told me that a few weeks ago they almost slept together, but he stopped it and said it would be stupid so they didn't. Then he kissed a random girl at a club one night. I know I know, I should be thinking obviously he doesn't like me! Am I stupid to think anything will ever happen? Does he like me and just doesnt want to hurt my friend? What should I do?
Help would be much appreciated! ~xxx~