Just describing myself......

[BlondeLooker]

Guess I'm 30'ish ( well nearly 31 ), Male, 'bout 5ft 9", large build ( I mean beefy not overweight). I am a graduate (Intelligent Systems and Psychology), considered attractive (but feel ugly most of the time ;).

Anyway, I love Philosophy (of mind), lifting weights, computer graphics (3d stuff, virtual reality, my work involves this).

Sensual (touch and visual particularly), romantic (sometimes) but also a physically capable individual (ex Rugby player - but got bored with being beaten up every saturday morning).


Well thats me. I'm sure theres more to me than that (I hope so anyway). Msg me peeps;)

[Angeleyes]

I won’t say too much - you might go and try and do a psychological analysis on me – and find out I'm a bit :flippy:

by considered attractive (but feel ugly most of the time)

Re your comment above - know what you mean I feel like that too – all the time.:(

CU around!

Angeleyes :angel:

[Kaisharga]

This is interesting.

From BlondeLooker (male):

considered attractive (but feel ugly most of the time ;)


From AngelEyes (female):

know what you mean I feel like that too – all the time. :(


See that smiley in BL's post? See the frowney in AE's post?

I've never been able to understand what the big difference is that allows males to believe themselves to be rather unattractive, and still be quite content, whereas females tend to equate beauty with personal worth--the phrase 'to feel beautiful' is almost synonymous with 'to feel good about oneself.'

Why is this? I don't get it...

Any thoughts?

--Kaisharga, sorry for clogging up an Intro thread with this Chat-Loungey topic

[Angeleyes]

Oh Kai be off with you!……………and here was me thinking you knew “everything” about the psychological profile of a woman.

I am quite content with how I look but some women aren’t at all and try everything in their power to change themselves whether it be via plastic surgery etc. My problem is (and not one to be conceited because I’m far from it), people do say I’m attractive – (too attractive some of my male and female friends have said and they say this is what puts men off asking me out – fear of being rejected if they do (their words not mine)). It’s not something I boast about though as I don’t think I am that attractive, not because I don’t value myself and accept myself as I am (don’t get me wrong I don’t consider myself Miss Wonderful!) – more so because no on ever asks me to go out with them, and because I haven’t got the guts to approach them myself (old fashioned girl) and they don’t me = me feeling ugly.

(Does this make sense as I feel I’m beginning to rant on a slightly?)

[Cleo]

Hi BlondeLooker! welcome to you, too!
Just a thought on feeling unattractive... (if we already started it here:D ). I gues more we expect from people, more dissapointed we get when THEY act different from what we expected. And then we worry ourselves what's wrong with us and why people don't like, respect, call, talk to us etc. well, i try not to expect any special treatment from others (even try to practice that on my rel. w/ my boyfriend) -- works way better, i am happier:D , working on it. ( ! check me on loveboard, plz) agree, disagree?
cheers!!
Cleo

[Kaisharga]

I Agree. (X gets the square!!)

Expectations are rarely beneficial--they only restrict your ability, psychologically, to adapt to a changing or uncertain situation. And there's little to lose by having no expectations.

--Kaisharga

[BlondeLooker]

"See that smiley in BL's post? See the frowney in AE's post? "



In answer to my ;) rather than any other gonk, I have to admit that I don't know all the key codes for these smilies!

The only ones I know are :), ;) and :(. Oh, and maybe if this one works :)).

Don't read too much into things. Sometimes its good to be shallow :p

Oh and I've just found the smilies click-in. Very nice ;)