my girlfriend's ex called her.

[Cypher]

hi,

recently my girlfriend told me that her ex-boyfriend is calling her. They have been together for about 4 years and we are only together for about 9 months. Its been twice that i know of. The first time they talked for about an hour. She told me he told her he missed her a lot and she told me she loves me only. Also she told me that he asked her to patch back with her on the phone. All this time i felt really bad and jealous. All i did was kind of stayed quiet.. normally its what i do when i feel sad, jealous, or a little upset.

What bothers me the most is that she talked to him for a whole hour and listened to him telling her sweet nothings. She told me i should trust her and that she didn't nothing wrong to me. and crap stuff like trust in relationship is important to her. i trust her, but what i don't want is for him to think he still has a chance because she is willing to listen to him. For me that sounds like an invitation to start calling more and being more forward..

i know that if it was the other way around she would get very upset because this is what she told me but i have never done such a thing to her. I know its always him who has called her. i don't know what to do or say? please help with your advice. Thanks.

[Byron]

It's normal for you to react that way but you must trust your intuition. If you feel in your heart that she loves you more, trust that feeling. It will make you feel more secure in her love but don't be misled also. Follow your heart with all your senses open and you'll never be lost.

Don't just stay quiet.. communication is very important in a healthy relationship. Tell her what you think and feel.

[katty]

Hi Cypher,

I am glad you trust your girlfriend.
I have always believed that Love, Trust & Respect is the air for relationship.

If her ex called up to send his regards, and talk about other stuffs, i think it is normal, as they could still be friends, BUT talking sweet nothings is absurb!!!! :redhot:

I think you wouldn't feel jealous or feel so bad, if they are just talking about something else than sweet nothings.

I think your girlfriend was a little at fault too, as she should have reminded her ex that they aren't an item anymore, and should even hung up the phone if her ex continues to talk nothing but hanky-panky stuff, but her ex is utterly BAD. He is trying to use his mouth to get your girl back.
"Go get him, Tiger!!!" :redhot:

Cypher, i agree with Bryon that communication is very important in a healthy relationship. BUT please communicate WELL. Do not end up arguing. :argue:
There are many things which you think, might not be the right fact that is happening.

I know your girlfriend loves you. I think she is just feelling bad if she hangs up the phone. :confused:
Just let her know that you do not mind if they are talking about serious/other stuffs, rather than love stuffs. (or maybe you mind? whatever... just do what you want. I am sure you are quite routinal minded, from the way you sound ;) )

Tell me how things are going on soon, alright.
Good :love: Luck.


Now, i am feeling dizzy, after using too much brain cells :wacko:

[katty]

Cypher, i forgot to add...

Time is not a factor for relationship. I and my boyfriend knew each other for a short while, but we developed really steadily.

So don't think about that 4 years and the 9 months stuffs. It is irrevelant when it comes to love. Love is Blind. :o