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BethelBabe03
11-23-2004, 08:56 PM
Ok, it's been frusterating me for quite some time and feel that i need advice from you guys.....so here's the story......


Ok, there's this guy(we'll call him "Mark") that i've been with since the beginning of September. We both were co-workers at pep boys, he started working there in the beginning of July 04'(i've been there since December 03'). He moved here from Florida to help support his brother....We didn't really talk to each other too much at first (we worked in differen't departments). In fact I didn't really care for him too much at first, but then around the middle of august he started growing on me. Now considering the fact that i'll be going into the Airforce sometime in the future, I didn't want to consider having a relationship of any kind except for just being friends......but obviously that part was in the back of my head cuz then in the beginning of september i was all of a sudden having this relationship with Mark(due to his part, he asked me out first)......but lets keep in mind that this relationship isn't supposed to be in any way serious, we both agreed upon that since i was goin' into the airforce and sometime in the future he was going back to florida......pretty much it started out us just going and hangin' out and then we started fooling around and doin' the :nod: (lol sorry it just reminded me of that), but then ever since we started doin' that stuff things started getting really rocky......he started becoming quite two-faced, in person he's all nice to me but when we text eachother or talk to eachother on the phone he doesn't seem too afraid to turn into the world's biggest jerk, we'd foughten about 5 times now :argue: and each time either me or him would say it was over, but then we always end up back together...and everytime it'd be on his part that we're back together again.....the last time we fought was in the middle of october and at that point I just decided that it would be the end of our little relationship, so I just stopped talking to him period and it worked for about a week and then suddenly he started talking to me and being all super nice(I swore he was on pot... :flippy: ) and he did that everyday for about a week and somehow his charm worked on me cuz i just decided to go to his house the day after holloween and he was all super nice to me but then things just started gettin' all rocky agian.....now fortunately he left for florida for vacation and has been gone since november 9th, and so we didn't talk to eachother for awhile and i didn't plan on him talking to me again until either sometime after thanksgiving when he got back or not at all period , but then i got an IM from him the 18th and i was really suprised.....and he was all saying that he didn't want me thinking that he was ignoring and we just talked about stuff, then he IM'd me again the 21st and he was all talking to me and asking me if i missed him and kept asking me if i was gonna go see him the same day he gets home from florida.....so i was all like, yeah, i might....but he wouldn't didn't take might for an answer and told me to say "i will", and that that was a better answer, and then he also told me to tell him that "Yes, i will be there that day you get home from florida", i was just like, yeah ok whatever, lol :rolleyes: then he mentioned that he was getting the house all to himself for three months ..........i dunno, i'm really confusing myself on this whole relationship, i'm just not too sure how to take this whole relationship just because since he was the first one to mention that he didn't want a serious relationship and didn't want me to get too attatched..... but then again if we're not serious then how come whenever we fight and say it's over, he always tries to win me back regardless of who says it's over? Would'nt he be able to just move on? Well give me your advice, it would be much appreciated

NHO3
11-28-2004, 06:36 PM
Hehe your definaly a girl remembering all those dates lol I can't remember like that. Anyway you can look at this 2 ways i think. One way is he is an ass hole and doesnt know how to treat women therefore doesnt deserve you. The other way is the two of you have some communication problems or something causing you to fight.
When I was dating my wife we never got into fight or arguments that ended in breaking up or even saying we wanted to break up. Oh wait there was this one time when she wasn't happy with me and she mentioned that she couldn't be in a realtionship with a guy that was doing what I was doing. With good communication we got past that. I changed what I was doing wrong and we moved on. Then before I left for the Navy I gave her a promise ring and then several months after boot camp and "A" school we got engaged and blah blah you get it lol.
I am not sure how long you have before you leave for the Airforce but you might want to talk to that guy and figure out for yourself wheather he is just an ass hole or if it can be worked out. Dont let him tell you which case it is, figure it out by talking to him and observing his behaviors and how he treats you.

Hope that helps.

Miss Direction
11-28-2004, 07:34 PM
You're stupid and LOVE jerks/potheads, not to mention the overwhelming passion for the stirring up of useless drama.

You love it and you know it....

BethelBabe03
11-29-2004, 05:45 PM
You're stupid and LOVE jerks/potheads, not to mention the overwhelming passion for the stirring up of useless drama.

You love it and you know it....


I'm not stupid.......but i do like the overwhelming passion for the stirring up of useless drama.....just can't seem to get enough of it

Miss Direction
11-29-2004, 06:13 PM
Drama is bad....and is a killer in relationships.

You women are fameous for this, being the "illogical" thinkers that you are, you go by your feelings..... up a relationship by causing all kinds of drama, then turn around and blame us for your stupid mistakes and behaviors.

Classic!

Oh....and in case you were wondering, you are NOTHING more than a "fubu" to him! You are a ragdoll! Again, this is you being dumb and using your wonderful "feelings" to come to a false conclusion.

Oh....and you are stupid. :p The fact you can't gramatically construct a sentence or recognize how to write a paragraph with any structure is proof of this.

It's dumb women and drama queens like yourself that make men want to NOT commit!

Take a hint...

BethelBabe03
11-30-2004, 06:44 PM
Oh....and you are stupid. :p The fact you can't gramatically construct a sentence or recognize how to write a paragraph with any structure is proof of this.



Uh, it's called i was in a hurry typing, therefore i didn't really care about how it looked gramatically or structurally.........and anyways, i took English 101 and have college level reading and you can't be a dumb to get into the Airforce.....they are really uptight on qualifications right now. So therefore it proves I am not stupid. It just shows that you judge somebody immaturally and it shows you don't have a life by doing so.

But on to other things.........

As far as my relationship with the dude goes........I never really wanted a relationship of any kind, in fact I swore to myself that I wouldn't have one until after BMT(and if your too dumb not to know what that means, it means BASIC MILITARY TRAINING), but obviously thats not how it was going down and I am in denial of this "relationship" in the first place......I am very commitmiphobic so therefore i don't even want a commitment. How this "relationship" still exists is beyond me and i wish i never got myself to have any form of one.......but since i can't change the past, whether or not i'm only just his little "F*ck Buddy" it's fine with me...hell i like "doin it" as much as any guy......but personally I just wish he weren't so damn confusing as to how he takes the relationship.....by the way I didn't tell the ENTIRE story(note: i was in a hurry), and didn't quite put it out the right way either(note: i was in a hurry).....oh yes and he is not a pothead, i just used that phrase to describe the fact that he was acting wierdly by being all extra nice talking to me(which by the way i thought was complete bull, but i never mentioned my thoughts to him about it, lol)......and now he is just being his normal nice self like he was when i knew him before any of our "relationship" bull ever happened which is the way it should be. Our problem was was that he was going through ALOT of with work and I was going through ALOT of at home AND at work, so all the we were both going through effected our "relationship" and therefore led us to our "many fights" which really had nothing to do with feelings at all. Our "red-line" was just always being crossed and by the time we'd talk to each other we'd just be pissed by something that had happend but we wouldn't tell eachother what happend and if we tried then it just ends up in a big ole fight.
Pretty much it's just "communication problems". But we've talked through all of that so now I am just seeing what happens....if he resorts back to his "asshole" days then i'd have to say "See Ya Around"..........I don't LOVE jerks and I don't LOVE drama(and by the way i was only tin' with ya when i said that I did)....I try to avoid drama....which is why I never told people and my old work(where me and him were working together) because i know they be going around spreading like wildfire, but that didn't work out too well cuz he went and told em' all...and so now i'm considered a hoe there......and so i'll be damned! some guys like starting the drama as well, hmmmmmm...........how bout that!

well i'm off, sorry this was so damn long but I hope to hear yoiur wonderful "critizising/dramatizing/opinionated" self soon!!!! :-)

BethelBabe03
11-30-2004, 06:51 PM
miss direction..........before you criticize my grammer or what not........my wonderful colorful use of words were censored therefore my last reply seems a bit off........stupid America and their censorship rights to keep kids from turning into satan's little spawn........lol oh well