Direpoetic
11-23-2004, 03:19 AM
Hey all,
Well anyways here my situation, I have a very close friend that i have known for over 6 years about half of it being interested in her, now there is no real problem in how we get along we both get along great and have similar interests, we all go to the same church and she is very close to my family especially my mother, in fact she's always doing things with me and my mother.
Now the problem is she did find out a couple of years ago that i was interested in her and didn't say anything for a few months until some lady started calling us boyfriend/girlfriend she was a little disturbed about it because we weren't even dating, we did talk about it and she said that at first it didn't bother her but now she has a lot going on (she was working full time and working on her masters at the same time and was very stressed) and didn't want any more things to think about and she really didn't want to be rude to me and embarass me in front of other people, and my response was basically: "Look I am your friend and yes I do find you attractive, but we are at differant levels and if I was more established I would've harassed you for a date." She laughed about the last comment and seemed to relax a lot, however she was a little upset when I said "Look you're at a higher level than I am because I'm still starting things." then she said: "No I'm not please don't say that."
Well that was couple of years ago. The other problem is that she's 32 and I'm going to turn 26 in a few months she finished her masters degree and makes quite a bit of money($30/hr) me I'm just barely started i'll be working on my bachelors soon and have an ok job ($10/hr).
Since the past few years me and her have been even closer friends we almost treat each other like brother and sister, and recently I talked about why she isn't married she said she intimidates alot of men and mainly because she's only going to marry for companionship and not really looking to raise a family and she'll only get involved with people she knows very well, and then I told her well if I was more established and didn't have so much going on I'll definately ask her out, Then she jokingly said: "What, you afraid?" I said "No its just that you are well established and I'm just starting on my first legs." then she said "Well it shouldn't matter I grew up with my mother making more than my father and my mother was the breadwinner." The last comment she made has started making me think but I also try not to dwell too much on it, I'm thinking it was just a friendly comment.
If things were more favorable I would definately take a chance and ask her, but I also feel a little inadequate right now to offer her anything. Any advice would be greatly appreciated sorry about the long post folks.
Well anyways here my situation, I have a very close friend that i have known for over 6 years about half of it being interested in her, now there is no real problem in how we get along we both get along great and have similar interests, we all go to the same church and she is very close to my family especially my mother, in fact she's always doing things with me and my mother.
Now the problem is she did find out a couple of years ago that i was interested in her and didn't say anything for a few months until some lady started calling us boyfriend/girlfriend she was a little disturbed about it because we weren't even dating, we did talk about it and she said that at first it didn't bother her but now she has a lot going on (she was working full time and working on her masters at the same time and was very stressed) and didn't want any more things to think about and she really didn't want to be rude to me and embarass me in front of other people, and my response was basically: "Look I am your friend and yes I do find you attractive, but we are at differant levels and if I was more established I would've harassed you for a date." She laughed about the last comment and seemed to relax a lot, however she was a little upset when I said "Look you're at a higher level than I am because I'm still starting things." then she said: "No I'm not please don't say that."
Well that was couple of years ago. The other problem is that she's 32 and I'm going to turn 26 in a few months she finished her masters degree and makes quite a bit of money($30/hr) me I'm just barely started i'll be working on my bachelors soon and have an ok job ($10/hr).
Since the past few years me and her have been even closer friends we almost treat each other like brother and sister, and recently I talked about why she isn't married she said she intimidates alot of men and mainly because she's only going to marry for companionship and not really looking to raise a family and she'll only get involved with people she knows very well, and then I told her well if I was more established and didn't have so much going on I'll definately ask her out, Then she jokingly said: "What, you afraid?" I said "No its just that you are well established and I'm just starting on my first legs." then she said "Well it shouldn't matter I grew up with my mother making more than my father and my mother was the breadwinner." The last comment she made has started making me think but I also try not to dwell too much on it, I'm thinking it was just a friendly comment.
If things were more favorable I would definately take a chance and ask her, but I also feel a little inadequate right now to offer her anything. Any advice would be greatly appreciated sorry about the long post folks.