Stroking hair.......

[BlondeLooker]

Hi ppl,


I'm new here and want to share an experience of late. I've just been in the office with a girl I really find attractive, while we were chatting (about work), she was looking right at me and stroking her long, blonde hair.

We flirt a little over email as well.

Is this a good sign?

[iain]

well it could be,or she might just be having a bad hair day,have you found out about her background? ie is she with someone,also take it from me,love and work sometimes is a no go.still its all there for the taking if you wana try.just dont get too heavy,as she might be passing the time away.good luck

[BlondeLooker]

lol.

Well, I didn't tell you the whole truth. I'm just trying to pick up the signals here.

I told her last week that I was interested (didn't quite say it like that!) and asked if she was seeing anyone. She said she was, but `I'm not very good with guys so hang-around'.

It wasn't a `no' and it wasn't a `yes' it was a maybe. Wasn't too sure if this is her way of saying no nicely. I can imagine for some women thats a way of leaving the door open and for others, perhaps she really isn't seeing anyone but isn't too confident about dating me ;)

Well, life goes on as normal, but do I hang around waiting?

[iain]

well you could wait,but hay whats the point when there are so many outhers out there,are you m or f,just out of intrest.:daisy: :deer: :dollar:

[BlondeLooker]

I'm a guy. 30 years old. considered attractive ;)

But.......... I like this one (shes for me).

I have played the field in the past. It doesn't matter how many times I still can't read the initial signals very well at all.

I know what I want in a woman now (luckily). Hmmm. But how long to wait? People have needs :) and I'm no mug so I wouldn't consider it particularly dignified to slouch around for my big chance.

Its that age-old chestnut: (I can't remember what the particular philosophical saying is, but I'm sure it was relevant!).

[iain]

yep try my friend and may the force be with you......:devil:

[Angeleyes]

BL: If you really don’t want to waste time in “hanging around” as you put it for her , then just go and ask her out and have it over and done with.

My opinion is if you really really wanted her you would be prepared to wait a little while as some of us women like the thrill of the chase, and don’t just like to offer it up on a plate, so to speak.

Iains comment *well you could wait, but hay what’s the point when there are so many others out*

Where your sense of romance Iain – or is it just in your case of "sex and go”?

hmmmmmmm Angeleyes

[BlondeLooker]

Hi Angel,



I am really taken by her. Actually, I think I like her because she is smart and funny, not just because she happens to be a pretty blonde with a sexy body ;) [there are plenty of those around].

Well, she is seeing someone at the moment and when I did express my `feelings' (not quite like that), she kind-of left the door open, ie. "I'm useless with men - stick around, knowing me I'll be single again soon".

Well, how do I interpret that? Any ideas?

[Angeleyes]

Hi BL

Well I’m no connoisseur, but if you really like her than I would wait a while longer and see what happens.

Personally if the roles were reversed and a guy having said to me *I am usless with women stick around knowing me I’ll be single again* - I’d think there was something awfully strange about him – especially if they can’t hold down a relationship for what seems no longer than five minutes.

But knowing what they say about men which is they can’t do without thinking about SEX let alone partaking in the activity – and looking at it from that point of view, maybe Iain is right, why wait on the off chance for her to dump her current victim. You might as well go out and enjoy yourself, as she seems to be doing just that.

It looks to me like she’s stringing you along a bit on the off chance that if the current relationship doesn't succeed - she’d then turn to her next victim - YOU.

I don’t want to sound too harsh or cruel, and if and when she does dump her current chap, what makes you think she won’t just “love you and leave you” like all the rest of them. Unless all you want is just to have sex with her, and not a proper relationship then that's all well and good - Just a thought (I hope I haven’t confused the issue).

Good luck:):tup:

[BlondeLooker]

Hmmm. This kind-of confirms what I was thinking! I mean, you have these ideas about a situation and ask other people what they think because perhaps you don't have too much confidence in your own opinion!

I was just thinking that maybe she wasn't all that confident - that would be an alternative (and preferable for me!) view. I know people like to ask the question in the hope of getting an answer they like ( "hey - does my bum look big in this?", "no, not at all!" - well you know what I mean ).

I terms of SEX, I love it! But, I'm looking more for someone to go places with. Of course I'd like to give her a bloody good shagging as well ;)

Does the word companion make any sense here? As usual, I'm in the right place at the wrong time.

See ya.

<EDIT>.....

Well, I suppose I should add an addendum to this. Today, she told me that she needed to come in to work at the weekend to finish off a project that we are both currently working on. I replied that if she needed me to come in as well, I'd be happy to do so because my weekend is going to be quiet anyway.

Well, she replied `and maybe we can go for dinner\drinks afterwards, if you'd be ok with that?'. Well, I most certainly am.

Is this a date? I better not assume so just in case I'm wrong!

<ANOTHER EDIT!>

Well, she just suggested that we both get hammered tommorrow. We agreed on cocktails. I don't know why I'm telling you all this. Perhaps things are moving on? (would you go wild in a bar with a guy you weren't interested in?). Hmmmm.

Things are looking up ;)

[Angeleyes]

and seem to be moving on.

As you really seem to like her I’d just go with the flow and see what happens. What do you have to lose.

Best of luck.

Let us know how you get on. ;)

[Morpheus]

How is it going for the two of you?

[BlondeLooker]

Ohh just fine Morph - see my thread about flower colours for more information ;)