My Boyfriend Always Dreams About His Ex-girlfriend...help!!!

[brina7133]

I need some serious advice...my boyfriend and i have had some troubles in the recent past with him lying to me about letting his ex-girlfriend out of his life. I came to find out that not only was that a lie, but he had called her over 100 times in one month!!! Now he swears that she is 100% gone, that he got rid of her. ( I don't believe him ), but now he tells me that he dreams about her!!! ( He rarely even dreams about me) Does this mean he is not yet over her?? What should I do, it's really hurting me inside to think that he is thinking of her enough to dream about her. Please give me advice. :xeye:

[garion12299]

well, you truly cannot hold someone accountable for what they dream, nor does it mean much. Noone understands the human subconsious. As for the "shes gone, but I don't believe him", first and formost before good sex or even friendship, you have to trust your partner. If you do not trust him, either you feel he is untrustworthy or you feel you cannot trust any men. If it is the first, ditch him, there are a ton of good men out there that would love to be in a loving relationship with a good, stable, confident woman. If you feel that you cannot trust any men, I would seek counseling of some sort to find out why, not that you are a problem, but that usually means you have some form of a confidence issue.

[brina7133]

Thank you for your words of wisdom. I do realize that one cannot help what they dream, even with that knowledge, I couldn't help but wonder if there was a possibility of a hidden meaning....the issue of trusting people in general is a big one for me. I find that the situation between my current boyfriend and I has not only re-hashed past memories, but it has brought me to a point where I am not sure if it is just him that i do not trust, or everyone. Leaving him is probably the most sensible option, but my heart does not allow it to be that simple.
Again, thank you.

[Miss Direction]

You are such a tool.
This isn't a problem, you just LOOOOVE the drama!

You are nothing but proof that if you cheat on a woman it will give her her drama fix while taking her mind off of other dongs at the same time.

If this really was a problem, why the did you take him back?!

He's not over HIS ex!!!!

HELLO!??!

What in the heck makes you think....Oh, my bad, women don't THINK, they FEEL...that this relationship is going to last?

Treat a woman like crap, and she eats it up. Treat her well...and she leaves.

You women and your chasing emotionally unavailable men.....morons.