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Smidtz
11-02-2004, 09:30 PM
Q.

Hey. I've been going out with this girl for about 5 months and we are going steady and things have never been better. There has just been one thing bothering me, more of a mixed/angered feeling. Every now and she starts to talk dirty on the phone so I of course listen and respond. I feel like it is our moment and then she brings up a piece of her old relationship about her and her old boyfriend which is a toltal turnoff and makes me kinda pissed at her. I tell her not to tell me that type of thing cause it hurts and I don't want to know. She tells me then as a quick recovery that "I am the only one for her, and that this guy lives in another state.". It stings but I push the thought away of her doing those "things" with her old bf. Should I be mad... what should I do that isn't to mean. Most often I've just told her that if she wants to tell me something like that, then she's gotta do it to me first, then I grab her tits and light a smile.

How do you make this sound nice: I DON'T WANNA HEAR ABOUT YOUR ING BOYFRIEND AND WHAT YOU DID WITH HIM AT CAMP, LET'S TALK ABOUT US.

NHO3
11-02-2004, 11:52 PM
If she talks about a specific person more than once then she probably has unresolved issues with that person. You might want to sit down and talk to her about it. Some people do like to talk about previous relationships though but the way u wrote it it sounds like she does it after or during what could be considered a sexual moment between the two of you. That is a problem. Does that happen often? Is it always the same guy she talks about?

Smidtz
11-03-2004, 07:49 AM
They were at camp together and now she is gonna go back at summer to camp and see him again. Every time she sees him she is sad but 1 out of 5 times we talk he is brought up, so I would agree with you that there is some unfinished business.

NHO3
11-03-2004, 10:41 PM
As sad as it is to say it is probably easier to find another girl than to deal with that sort of thing. I would get another girl and move on if it were me. Its a lot easier to move on early in the relationship than to wait around and try and fix things.