In love so much that it hurts..

[peacekeeper]

This girl i like and she is also atrackted to me , she told me how good looking i am and how cute , how im amaising and my personallity is incredible and this is the most beautifull girl i have ever seen in my life , but the only problem is that she is madly in love with one of her ex and she wants to go back with him and her ex also wants to get back , so for now were like very good friends we always hang otu together, but i cant stand not being with her and i rly think im in love with her. What should i do?

[BandGuy76]

This has to be handled with some care or you will end up embaressing yourself or even possibly loosing a friend.

First, decide if it is her that you are attracted to, or the attention she gives you. They are very diffrent things. You want to make sure that it is her personality and character that draw you. It always feels good to have people say great things about us, but I would be careful not to fall into the trap of falling in love just from the attention.

Second, try to increase the time you spend alone with her. This has to be done slowly and progressivly. Don't ask her out on a date, but make a refrence that you're going to (insert date destination here) and you're looking for someone to come along. This is a nice, no pressure way of getting to spend time with someone.

If that is not your style, then decrease the amount of time you spend with her, slowly and progressivly. Don't inform her of everything you are doing or going to do. Just go do stuff without her. The point here is that you want her to notice when you are not around and to do something about it. The goal is to get her to think about you. If she is interested in you as dating potentional, you'll know soon enough. Also, if she isn't that interested, it gives you some breathing space so you don't have to be around her all the time, which can be painful.

Remember, you don't always have to date someone you are madly in love with. Try dating someone because they interest you. It may not go far, but the experienace will be worth it.