bruster
10-19-2004, 09:37 PM
Hi everyone,
I haven’t been here (acme) for very long time but lately I feel like I need some one to talk to, this last year had been a very stressing year and this is an understatement.
My fiancée and I are getting married in Feb 2005 and preparations so far have been very stressing and this is why I chose to stay away fro most of the preparations.
We are no up to the wedding invitation stage, we have worked out what we want to say on the invitation and all is left is the colour scheme.
But some people are finding it hard to come to terms the way it has been written and everyone seems to have an opinion on it.
My fiancées father passed away 15 years ago and my fiancée still feels very close to him in some ways and for the invitations she and I , well most she did decided to put her father’s name as the inviter together with her mum who is still alive and well.
The problem now is that my family spotted the name there and are now asking questions (why is the father’s name there? Isn’t he deceased?) and my brother’s girlfriend says (there are other ways you write!!)
Now these comments have reached the mother and obviously it has touched a soft spot, naturally i'm in between all of this.
Let me just say though I have no problems with the name being there, I feel that my fiancée needs the re-assurance her father is still with her in spirit during this important time in her life but some people don’t see it that way and because of it, it has caused a debate.
I have now tried to stop it by telling everyone this is what we want and that’s it, no more debates or opinions or suggestions.
What should I do?? I don’t want to upset the mother in law and I don’t want to upset my family… why cant some people be quiet.
I feel sometimes its better being single and enjoying life than getting married and putting up with this for the rest of my life. I am really having doubts, I mean this is not the first time there has been other incidents but I don’t want to keep doing this, I think I’m going bald ever since we got engaged.
Bruster
Australia
I haven’t been here (acme) for very long time but lately I feel like I need some one to talk to, this last year had been a very stressing year and this is an understatement.
My fiancée and I are getting married in Feb 2005 and preparations so far have been very stressing and this is why I chose to stay away fro most of the preparations.
We are no up to the wedding invitation stage, we have worked out what we want to say on the invitation and all is left is the colour scheme.
But some people are finding it hard to come to terms the way it has been written and everyone seems to have an opinion on it.
My fiancées father passed away 15 years ago and my fiancée still feels very close to him in some ways and for the invitations she and I , well most she did decided to put her father’s name as the inviter together with her mum who is still alive and well.
The problem now is that my family spotted the name there and are now asking questions (why is the father’s name there? Isn’t he deceased?) and my brother’s girlfriend says (there are other ways you write!!)
Now these comments have reached the mother and obviously it has touched a soft spot, naturally i'm in between all of this.
Let me just say though I have no problems with the name being there, I feel that my fiancée needs the re-assurance her father is still with her in spirit during this important time in her life but some people don’t see it that way and because of it, it has caused a debate.
I have now tried to stop it by telling everyone this is what we want and that’s it, no more debates or opinions or suggestions.
What should I do?? I don’t want to upset the mother in law and I don’t want to upset my family… why cant some people be quiet.
I feel sometimes its better being single and enjoying life than getting married and putting up with this for the rest of my life. I am really having doubts, I mean this is not the first time there has been other incidents but I don’t want to keep doing this, I think I’m going bald ever since we got engaged.
Bruster
Australia