i need help!!!

[skatejamie]

what to do when a girl wants to be just friends cos shes afraid of breaking up? i've been friends with a girl for quite a while now and have been developing my friendship with he, but at the same time i have been somewhat falling for her. i have been keeping quiet about what i feel for her for about 2 months now. until about a week ago, i told one of her friends what i felt for her and her respose being that she had feelings me and i should ask here out. so i asked her to the movies, after which i told her how i feel but in a way in which i would not frighten her off. she then explain a reason why she turned me down, "i feel that if we were together then broke up our friendship would be ruined." we are now on unsteady ground, what can i do to reasure her? i know my feelings are true, someone has to have been in this situation or one like it. :confused: :bawling:

I KNOW PEOPLE JUST READ THIS AND FORGET IT BUT SERIOUSLY,
COULD SOME ONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.

[Traciena]

So she says she has feelings for you too? How can this be bad? First of all you need to reassure her that your intentions are not to scare her or make her feel uncomfortable. Second, you should evaluate what it is you feel for her. Are you weak in the knees because of something witty she has said to you, or is it her appearance that has blown you over. You may feel like you are falling for her, but how genuine are your feelings. It might help to write down all the qualities you admire about her and give a little expanded detail to them. Then give it to her. She will be shocked that you went through the trouble and might see that you are not just in this for a fly by night romance. After you have done that, ask her to do the same. If she responds positive to your request then you will know that she has put more thought into what you have admited .. most of all, go slow and be honest. Two words to make a lasting impression.

[wicked]

First of all assurance is an important aspect in this situation. You must be able to give her the assurance that your feelings are true and if you say that the so-called "fear-of-losing-the-friendship" is the only reason why you're now on unsteady ground then I think that's a lame excuse. Would you rather risk a friendship trying or walk away never knowing what might have been? :)

Then again GoodLuck! :)

[skatejamie]

hey, i'd like to say thanks for the advice, and that things kinda worked out. but not all to plan, don't want to bore you with all the crappy details. anyway thanks again.

p.s that list thing worked quite well and i got a possitive reply.:)

[wicked]

well that's good to hear! :)