Touching is uncomfortable

[nskkam]

Everytime i dont know why this happens but when i touch a gurl i get this uncomfotable feeling, even when its innocent touching its weird. Like I would in my mind and heart want to touch her, not in a rude way liek boobs or ass but in a classy way but I would feel so odd doing it like its the wrong thing when its really not. Like if our legs are touching I feel conscience about it, it begins to cloud my mind and i cant think straight. Do u guys know why?

[nskkam]

any reply this sux

[BandGuy76]

Actualy, I know exactly how you feel. I don't much like to be touched by anyone and I'm very concious about my "bubble". I have a few friends that I'm comfortable enough that I don't mind hugs or friendly touching.

It's even worse with the ladies. I don't much touch unless it has been established that we are actualy dating. By then, I don't have much problems with touching and I usualy really enjoy the attention and enjoy giving it.

What I think this is, and I might be wrong, is not so much a matter of actual physical contact, but problems with intamacy. Touching is a form of expression, of letting someone know how you feel. If you don't feel comfortable touching someone, you probably don't feel real comfortable talking about sensetive feelings and emotional matters.

What can help this? It's hard to say. I've worked on it a great deal, but I still don't really like crowds or unfamiler people touching me. I don't feel that it is right that I touch someone until I have a good, solid foundation of a relationship with them. As you grow older, you're going to find things that work for you and things that don't.

Hope this helps