Seduction Queen or Scream?

[abs23]

HELP! Okay, I am a mid-twenties adult female in need of advice. How can I spice up my love life? How can I make my boyfriend really desire me and want to be with me? I knwo he loves me and wants to be with me, but I want him to desire me in a sexual way. Maybe he does and I just don't see it or pay attention to it--could be, I tend to overlook things! I just don't want him to get bored. I am used to being independent and more of a "guy" than a girl--meaning, I was always a tomboy and had more guy friends than girl friends in high school and college. I can be somewhat rough around the edges and I forget how to be seductive and romantic. What can a woman do? Anyone? Everyone? Please reply if you can offer some insightful advice...thanks

[Kaisharga]

Surprise him. Chances are, especially if you've been with him for more than five (or thereabouts) months, he WANTS you. He is probably afraid to express it, however, A) because he's afraid you'll think him a creep and get rid of him, or B) because he's afraid of that whole sexual-harassment crap that's going on in the USA nowadays.

How about you make the first move? Take him back to your bed and lay down together. Feel HIM up. Kiss HIM wantingly. Feel his chest. Grab his...


...well, I'm sure you get the idea. Be blatant--guys like this kind of i've-been-wanting-you-for-so-long-i-just-can't-hide-it-anymore thing. Trust me. :D

And unless he's a super pole-up-the-you-know-where type, or incredibly moralistic, he'll take you up on your 'offer.' If you know what i mean.

After that, if you decide to give yourself up to the whole deal, that's your choice. You can taunt him, and tell him that you want to know that you want him, and you want him to want you. And yes, that was a weird sentence.

Another thought, if you're not into the blatant approach, is phone him with small yet well-interpretable (if you know what i mean) innuendae(sp?). Make 'head' jokes. Taunt him with those, and eventually he'll cave in, and you can set up where+when at leisure.

--Kaisharga

[JimmyBlue]

Originally posted by abs23
HELP! Okay, I am a mid-twenties adult female in need of advice. How can I spice up my love life? How can I make my boyfriend really desire me and want to be with me? I knwo he loves me and wants to be with me, but I want him to desire me in a sexual way. Maybe he does and I just don't see it or pay attention to it--could be, I tend to overlook things! I just don't want him to get bored. I am used to being independent and more of a "guy" than a girl--meaning, I was always a tomboy and had more guy friends than girl friends in high school and college. I can be somewhat rough around the edges and I forget how to be seductive and romantic. What can a woman do? Anyone? Everyone? Please reply if you can offer some insightful advice...thanks

There are lots of things you can try. And trying them will
both expand your range, and his image of you.

Change your style of dress, occasionally. Try something
that's "too naughty", and see if you get a rise out of him.
If you do, make the most of it. Sexual behavior is learned,
and if you've "taught" him not to expect impulsive, hot
sex, then he'll quit trying after a while.

Touch him. Let him understand that you desire to be his,
that you are open to more.

Flirt. Interject subtle sexuality into your conversation (when
you are in the mood to let it progress; don't be a dry tease,
see learned behavior). Flirting is also eye play, motion,
a sexy pose, a stretch that he can't help noticing.

Dare. Tease and be teased when someone might catch
you. Build tension for later. Sex does not start when the
bedroom door closes; it starts when he realizes he -needs-
to take you there. It builds as you fan and tamp his urge
with a smile and a push, a tickle and a wink, the brush of
a braless nipple against his arm.

When you are together, make your sex non-routine and
try to "blow his mind" occasionally. Fine line between
that, and freaking him out, if he's not really experienced
or has hangups. But just... try stuff. That means stretching
his boundaries, and yours. The dessert bar instead of
meat-n-potatoes. Instill a sense of wonder and anticipation
by doing things he does not expect, but loves afterward.
It's essential to have this all happen in a loving, warm,
passionate way, that both of you know you're "OK",
even if it gets wierd - you might need to start the ball
rolling with a little light talk, ask him if there's something
he's dreamed of trying but is afraid to ask. "Talk dirty".
in a lighthearted, playful way, get the both of you to open
up. Make a pact to do it with love and to keep your secrets
secret.

If he turns out to just not be "startable", all of this
practice will make you a godess for the next.

[BadKitty21]

Amazingly, I have found that sometimes my boyfriend finds me most sexy when I'm really not trying to be. Like I'll be folding clothes on my bed and a strand of hair will fall into my face and I'll brush it away, and look up, and I find him staring at me. Or he likes to come in the bathroom when I'm taking a bath and shaving my legs. I think all guys find that sexy, and i never realized it. Maybe next time you take a bath/shower, leave the bathroom door open a little so he can peek or come in..(this is of course if you live together) Let him see sides of you that he doesn't get to see a lot. If you don't live together and he always picks you up for a date and you're always ready by the time he gets there, next time try not to be quite ready. Let him see you fix your hair or put your finishing touches on your makeup. Give him a seductive look occasionally....but sometimes you're at your sexiest when you feel you're doing nothing sexy at all.

[Mouth of God]

this is coming from a guy...if your even remotely good looking i would say 99% of all heterosexual males enjoy sex...Guys have something called a penis which is basically an organ that screws up their ability to say no to sex...i guess what im trying to say is..."Its all you" You could be as direct as to say you wanna have sex and unless he wants to get laughed at by his friends he will prolly agree and get more excited then you can imagine.

[meg]

Call him at work and talk dirty to him. Invite him over. When he walks through the front door, immediately strip him. Show him your desire to please him. Ummm...maybe kneel in front of him at this point...;)

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[MajorMax]

Mouth of God spoke wisely :D