<<Needs Advice...involved w/ some1 5yrs older than me!!!

[Kandy1430]

HI GUYS,
Sup....i need some advice on a situation. Im involved wit some one who is 5 yrs older than me. Weve been together since Feb 2001. We are havin some problems now and things cant work out right now......we are deeply in love but things aren't workin out. We are wonderin if we should wait until i get 2 or 3 years older to continue wit things..at my age now we cant do too much together. Im scared that if we wait he might find someone else, but i know he loves me and im not sure he'd do that...im scared somebody might capture his heart. Do you guys think it could work if we wait a couple of years b4 we get back together so things can go back to the way they were? My dude tol me he loves me and alwayz will and he wants to be wit me but not right now cuz things arent workin out and i agree?

please help*

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[abs23]

Gee, looks like you have a lot on your heart right now. Be patient and be strong. You need to think about the age thing here for a second. If you are under age and he is over 18, then it is illegal for you guys to be together, depending upon your state's laws and such. You might need to let him go and wait...when you love someone, sometimes you have to let him go, if he comes back, it is meant to be...let him fly while you live your life at your own age. Don't try to grow up too fast. Enjoy the life you have this very minute and enjoy people your own age. If it is meant to be, it'll be...just don't force it. Let it happen in it's own sweet way...these things are so much easier said than done...I know it is hard...just cry one hard cry and get it all out...hang out with your friends, enjoy people and get to know yourself so you will be ready when the right time comes...timing is everything, as they say! Good luck, hope this helps a little...

[Kaisharga]

My personal opinion is that you two are probably fine, unless you're under 21. Reiterating abs's thoughts, you should also be mindful of age-of-consent laws in your state--some say the younger may be 16 so long as the older is over 18, some say both have to be over 18, and some say both have to be 50.

No, not really. But wouldn't that be funny?

My thoughts come from the fact that my parents are five years apart in age as well--i believe they were married at 25 and 30. If i can remember correctly, which isn't likely. But, unless you're, again, over 21, i'd just be friends with this guy until you're older. And being friends is a good thing anyway. It helps you get to know him better in a different context, and how he behaves around other people. I wouldn't shut the doors of relationship quite yet, but I'd put it on hold if i were you (again, age parameters considered).

--Kaisharga

[Soullus]

I just have to get one thing clear here.. Like the others said check the laws in your state.. If your under 18yrs... But any how if you are or are not consider this.. How did you get started in the relationship... Look at what the relationship is based on... then look at your age.. You are too young to just stop dating, just yet.. I mean live life a little check and see whats out there..:teleport: you have all the time in the world to think about settling... I could go on and on.. but if you would like to chat sometime you may reach me at the following Messengers..AIM..Yahoo!..or email..

On a closing note. the reason I say this is because of a personal experience I had with a women.. I am now 21yr. then I was 19yrs and she was 32.. There's a big difference there in age.. we had problems we thought we could work through them.. but in reality we could not.. We both had different "reality's" dreams and goals in life.. I mean we wanted the same things out of life just not at the same time.. she wanted marriage and kids... I did too.. just not then.. I mean I was only 19yrs.. I still wanted to go to college and get my Ph. D in Child Psychology.. so it wasn't that we didn't love each other, that we separated.. it was our desires...our hearts....

"Friends become lovers, but lovers never become friends"

[wicked]

well just a thought to share.....----> sometimes love just aint enough.....