Would you love a married man?

[nancy]

Hello! if you were to decide, would you choose to love somebody who is already married but do not love his wife?:bawling:

[Kaisharga]

I know we have a thread up already that runs along the same topic--dang if I can remember the name, though. Might wanna go diggin for that sometime.

Anyway, to answer your question, I'd say that it's not really for you to judge whether or not the person REALLY does or does not love his/her spouse. The person is bound to him/her anyway, with the vows. And, for me, that makes them untouchable.

Then again, I would never leave my gf anyway.

--Kaisharga

[Angeleyes]

Kaisharga is right. Married = untouchable.

I myself fancied a guy at work and then found out he was married (this bit he omitted to tell me himself when we first started chatting, I however had my suspicions). Luckily it didn’t progress any further than the flirtation stage. When I found out and asked why he didn't wear a wedding ring - he responded that the relationship had broken down, and that they no longer loved each other. I however took it to imply that he had no respect for his wife (as he was looking elsewhere and still in a committed relationship), and non for me - thinking I would carry on regardless.

My motto is: Don’t do unto others, that you wouldn’t want someone to do to you.:)

*Kaisharga your gf is very lucky - You’re certainly 1 in a million. Why aren’t all men like you?*;) :kiss:

[abs23]

You might want to put yourself in his wife's shoes...meaning, if you were married and your husband was not in love with you anymore, would you want him to see other women? I mean, you don't know if he really loves his wife or not---but he is legally married to her and you don't deserve to be second best--you deserve to be first! Don't wait around for someone to make up his mind...love yourself and don't settle for second best...find someone capable of loving you and only you...good luck....

[Kaisharga]

Angeleyes: well, if you find places where there's a lot of real-believer wiccan guys, dig around there. Chances are you'll find someone with the same viewpoints as myself. Those people really take the whole marriage thing VERY seriously.

--Kaisharga, who's sorry for clogging up the thread with something that probably should have gone in a PM

[Byron]

You are not clogging up the thread. It's good that you post your thoughts on the thread instead of using PM. More can read it. Through sharing our thoughts publicly in this manner, we can learn more from each other.

[babymother]

He can tell you that he don't love her but if he's still with her he gots to have some type of love for her. but how could you fall in love with someone you know you can't have because as long as he has that ring he is hers no matter what. and plus action speaks louder than words so if he still walking around with that ring on then he still wants to be married and not being mean or anything but he's not going to let her go i know you maybe in love but he might just be in lust. and you have to think if he dose leave her to be with you will you trust him and beleave that he will be fatefull to you not saying he won't but if you love him and he love you why didn't he seperate or devorce his wife so that he could have a serious and meaningfull realtionship with you. if he didn't love her and wanted to be with you .

[Angeleyes]

You are very sweet Kaisharga, but I don’t think I’ll every get to the “married” stage in my life. I’m a bit disillusioned by it all and it’s meaning. I think my problem is I find it very hard to trust people – especially men.

Things have happened in the past to close family and friends which has put me off just a teeny bit and a majority of the time it has been the man who was at fault.

I would however like to meet someone who does believe in “true” love - meet my soul mate and have a lasting and fulfilling relationship, which I would devote myself to entirely and I hope he me.

Yes I know “all” men aren’t monsters, and before you say it (heheh), all us women aren’t all angels either, but …………..I don’t know …………..it would just take too long to explain my reasons for why I think like this.

Anyway, I’m a bit intrigued by what a “wiccan guy” is. I’ll be sending a PM to you shortly as I am familiar with quite a few faiths, and have a slight incline as to what one is. I just wanted clarification.

*NANCY: My apologies to you and all for diverting the topic of conversation. I hope you are able to sort out your dilemma and come to a decision that is right for you - and your future.*

Angeleyes:love:

[wicked]

no i wouLd never......

[E76]

I might, but I am not gay. As for whether I would "love" a married woman. I would say no, a night of ravenous fornication would be as far as I would take it, after all she is married. :sparty:

[Matia2003]

Hmmm, I'm not sure that anyone can decide if they would love a married person or not. I think you can try like heck not to let yourself get close. But, Can you really tell yourself (your heart) who to love or when to love them?

[Fireangel]

If he's married is because he still feels something for his wife. Until he is divorced, you can make your move if not he will just use you.