Does anyone believe in “Love at first sight”?

[Angeleyes]

If so, and you’ve experienced it and don’t mind sharing, I would love to hear about it.
:daisy:

[PTC99]

it is out there! i experienced it for myself........to make a long story short, in the end it didn't work out, but the experience was well worth it. basically, i saw him across a crowded room at a friend's party and i GASPED, my heart started pumping and i couldn't help grinning like an idiot....and somehow, magically, he was grinning too and he came over to me and we talked for hours........love at first sight was magical- unfortunately it made everything too serious way too quickly and that was why we eventually broke it off.......it's weird, but you somehow just "click" without knowing eachother's names......

[jidk]

Love is unconditional. Love is something that grows as time passes. What you may have experienced was an attraction closely related to love or first stages of love. It's like a seed first germinating. As it break through the soil it is first nurished by the seed elements itself, but then takes it nurishment from the soil.

Love is somewhat simuliar. First initial contact love is nurished from the meeting itself and then love grows out the enviroment created by two.

Some will say that love at first sight is efacturation, I say it is love made to grow. Love is love no matter what form it take on.

Jake:) ;) :cool:

[Angeleyes]

Thanks PTC99 and Jake for replying to thread.

PTC99 - Great story, but sad it didn't work out. Hope you have managed to find a "new" love.

Jake - It's like a seed first germinating. As it break through the soil it is first nurished by the seed elements itself, but then takes it nurishment from the soil. . Well said!

[wave]

i always find it amazing and wonderful to know about people getting into those "love at 1st sight" situtations...yet, i guess what jidk said was right. How can one fell in love with a person wihtout even knowing her name?

Actually one of my friend (he's those phiolosophical type of guy, i always wonder why he ended up doing law and science...) and i was talking about this topic the other day and we came up to the conclusion that the whole thing may just be pure physical attraction?
Then came alone with our great theory of "Love at the 1st sight VS Lust at the 1st sight", since we believe that if it's pure physical attraction, it is more likely to have the whole beginning point based on lust rather than love?
Correct me if i am wrong.

Regards,
by wave

[Kaisharga]

Not necessarily. There is 'I-wanna-do-you at first sight', and then there is 'I-want-to-treat-you-like-a-queen-and-worship-you at first sight.' Two different things, but they seem to be the points of view that you are taking.

--Kaisharga

[wave]

Kaisharga, are you suggesting that the attraction itself is part of "love" then? i guess normally you won't treat someone like a queen and worship her without a reason?

Regards,
by wave

[Kaisharga]

Heck yes.

In fact, attraction is the REASON and BASIS for love.

--Kaisharga

[iain]

i do.

[wave]

So, i believe we were talking about physical attraction all the time?

i wonder what will happen if you are lucky enough to stay with your current girlfriend for 40 years?

By then she won't be physically attractive any more, well, at least not as attractive as when she was young.

Are you gonna move on, dump her and go back for so young girls when both of you are already >60? Attraction is the REASON and BASIS for love and your foundation of love towards the girl iwill be washed away by time?

Physical appearance is one of the major aspects in sexual selection, true. Yet, humans have the intelligence for the deeper level of love...talk about the saturation of souls and minds...

Regards,
by wave

[Kaisharga]

i wonder what will happen if you are lucky enough to stay with your current girlfriend for 40 years?

By then she won't be physically attractive any more, well, at least not as attractive as when she was young.

Are you gonna move on, dump her and go back for so young girls when both of you are already >60? Attraction is the REASON and BASIS for love and your foundation of love towards the girl iwill be washed away by time?

*Gameshow Buzzer*
BRRRZZZZNNNT!
So sorry, you can still have this lovely consolation prize!

Age is quite a factor in what people find 'attractive.' A 20-year-old would balk at what a 70-year-old would find 'hot.' Not to mention that relationship-type closeness is also very attractive. I believe your objective definition of 'attractiveness' is by nature invalid.


Physical appearance is one of the major aspects in sexual selection, true. Yet, humans have the intelligence for the deeper level of love...talk about the saturation of souls and minds...
Yes, please do talk about it...

--Kaisharga

[artifact]

I think love (or maybe lust) at first sight is probably more applicable to men, men are more or less biologically programmed to jump on anything that they find attractive, goes back to caveman times, find foood/have sex/get killed! ( it's only living in "a civilised society" that curbs this instinct)

Women are far more subtle, physical attraction is just step one, I have known women who have ditched physically attractive "himbos" for someone without the looks and a personality.

[Angeleyes]

*Men are more or less biologically programmed to jump on anything that they find attractive.......*

*Women are far more subtle, physical attraction is just step one......... *

I totally agree with the two statements made by Artifact, purely based on, the fact that a male friend of mine said a similar thing to me only last week; when we were discussing relationships, physical attraction, sex, etc. I find if very fascinating that you came to the same conclusion as he did. Very weird!:eek:

[Kaisharga]

Oh, I've known that a long time. In fact, there have been scientific studies, two of which I've found particularly interesting: The first things that a woman looks at on a man are his face, his shoes, his hands, his shoulders, his chest, and his legs. I believe, in that order. (Yes, shoes.) This illustrates the consideration of a WHOLE LOTTA factors in mate-choosing.

In the other study, it was found that a good 10-minute-long ogle at a well-endowed woman's breasts does a lot to improve a man's health, as it gets the blood flowing....in a more literal sense...

--Kaisharga

[LeBlueBoy]

Kaisharga brings up a few points that should add a completely new angle to dating, that there are two different types of initial attraction--one is sexually based and the other is the result of neurochemicals. The "I want to worship you" type of love is the latter, it's a dopamine rush (along with a few other chemicals). This is the kind of love that poets write about--this is the kind of attraction that makes unrequited love possible (when in all reality, love should be a two way street amongst adults). Real love is sort of boring in comparison to a good dopamine charge--after all, its a legal way to use another person to get high.

I also think that both sexual attraction and crushes are great motivators to get you to get off your rump and risk that adolescent ego on making the first move.

And I'd like to add something to Kaisharga's point about sexual attractiveness. Sexual attractiveness is not some universal standard--it changes with experience and time, and it usually generates from within. Confidence and a warm "all's right with the world" smile will generate more heat than a pair of silicone implants (and, there's nothing wrong with silicone implants if the person carrying them has a sense of humor and knack for finding fun wherever she goes--its her money and her boobs, and ultimately her decision)

[kris]

I think I've experienced it and I'm still working on it. This girl had a look in her eyes. I don't know how to describe it, but it makes a feeling move through my body. Go see Serendipity. Great.

Kris

Good luck

[wicked]

hmm...i don't. How can you fall inlove with somebody you hardly even know? Probably it would only result in physical attraction before you can put love into the equation.;)

[JimmyBlue]

Love at first sight exists.

Love is a basic emotion, primal. It does not require knowledge
or consent.

I see it as a matter of not-falling-out-of-love, afterward.
That is, what you sensed (or imagined) about the person
in the moment must remain true and sufficient, as you
learn more about them (and this, in turn, must be such
that, on balance, love continues to grow).