Ph0ne Lovin: Cheating?

[Kaisharga]

An interesting thing to ponder: If a guy is going steady with a gal, is it considered cheating if he dials up a phone sex number?

Or how about surfing online for p0rn?

Or Cybersex?

--Kaisharga, who finally got to ask, rather than answer, a question :flippy:

[Angeleyes]

I wouldn’t exactly consider it to be “cheating” as such, so long as:

1. He didn’t phone/surf for porno while I was there.
2. It didn’t interfere with his usual routine/neglect anything else (like his job, family or me!)
3. Didn’t get in debt through doing these recreational activities.
4. That it wouldn’t progress any further than just conversing with someone on the phone, or looking at someone on the internet.

I would however contemplate one thing, and that is as to why he would feel the urge to do these things - could there be something lacking in his existing (sexual) relationship?

[Dreamer18]

Well as for me, my ex and I had an understanding that if we talked to anyone else about being interested in them as more than a friend then it was considered cheating. But i don't really believe that all that stuff would constiute as cheating. Although it isn't something that I would like for any of my guys to do. My current sorta"boyfriend" isn't into all that crap and he is very committed. So i think if you allow it to happen then it will happen. Set guidelines ahead of time that way you know what you can and can't do. It goes both ways. And it is never to early to ask. The guy that I am sorta with and I discussed this topic within days of getting togehter. so don't be afraid to do so.