I need advice

[Dreamer18]

Hello everyone. I need some advice. I recently got out of a relationship that i was in for almost a year. We were engaged to be married, however he was 2 years younger my 18. I went in and out of stages of depression. I met a guy about a week ago who totally blew me away. I learned that he and I have so much in common from our favorite types of pizza to being former debaters.He and his ex broke it off at the same time me and mine did. And get this, for the same reason as well. He is 6 years older than me nad we both figured out that our parents are both 14 years apart. I don't usually believe in horoscopes but in this case i do. Both of ours totally pertain exactly to how we feel about each other. We have kissed and we have also talked about where this relationship is going. We both kinda want to take it slow but then we don't. I don't know what to do, but I know that I want to be a couple with him. Please give me advice to what I should do to maybe move the relationship on quicker.:confused:

[Kaisharga]

It sounds like each of you is comparing the other to your exes. PLEASE, for the sake of both of you, slow the hell down. Get to be friends before you get to be more. Do the whole courtship thing. Treat it like you don't know whether he's really a good guy deep inside or not. Because who knows, he might not be the right guy for you. Make sure this isn't a bounceback fling. Build the relationship, don't rush to get to that whole marriage thing, nor the sex thing. Both of those should be taken slowly.

In other words, treat him just exactly the same way you would treat him had you not had a date for months.

--Kaisharga

[Dreamer18]

I just wanted to thank you for the advice. If anyone else has any i would love to hear it

[Pandora1980]

Definately take it slow- especially b/c of the age thing- I know sometimes it sounds dumb- my ex is 5 yrs older than me. I wish we had taken it slower. We talked more before we had sex and then it seemed like it was expected everytime we were together. We dated for 9 months off and on and I still feel like he doesn't really know me.
My childhood came up recently and just now he realizes that I have a lot to get over from it- but the whole 9 months we dated, he didn't have a clue. He knew the little things which was very sweet, but he didn't know any of the deeper things or how I felt about them. He was very chivalrous beforehand, shortly after the sex started, opening doors and sweet stuff like that- ended.

Talk and get to know eachother while you can, sex puts the relationship in a different category.

It's better to get to know the guy before jumping to that- and you can decide whether he's worthy or not- that way it also prevents you from sleeping with 80 guys (and possibly getting some nasty diseases) before finding the one you want to be with.