Introduction to the Ladys

[jofriend63]

To all the Ladys out there ;) I am from San Antonio Is there any ladys from Texas. I am married but I would like to meet soneone that is married also No commitment but friends always. I think an affair could spice our marriages or it could get us what we are not getting at home write back Jose

[Joey]

I don't think an affair can spice up marriages. What if your wife spice up your marriage? ;)

[babymother]

Its alot of ladies here at acmelove that don't take to kindly to cheaters. i don't understand why make a life long commitment to someone just to cheat if she not what you want in a women why did you marry her if she don't please you in everyway and the only thing that cheating will spice up is a spicy ass fight or divorce. and it will leave your pockets a little less spicy. and i have one question for you as well as other cheaters is that women your cheating with worth losing your wife. :mad:

[jidk]

Get a hold of your self and grow up emotionly. If you want to play around, get a divorice. At least you will be semi-safe at least with your self. OK if you find a lady willing, but I'll tell you it all physical. Sounds to me like you pretty self centered. This is coming from a man who does not share you way of thinking. I've been around the block at least once and feel I have a handle on the social aspects of life.

Jake

[jidk]

[Kaisharga]

*points to the little Edit button at the bottom-right of each post*

--Kaisharga, lord of Fruits and Veggies :flippy:

[xiaomoon]

This is the first time i read such a post in this site!:goof:
btw i have a qns... y do u need to spice up your life by having an affair? Does you and your wife have some problems or after the marriage you found that you shouldn't get married anyway- cos you still havnt enjoyed life enough?:confused:

[LeBlueBoy]

Jose, in a warped roundabout way, makes a valid point for the distinctions between love and sexual attraction (and excitement). Although the two can be symbiotic, they're rarely ever synonymous---and that seems to get most people into trouble.

You can love someone, and still know that a long term committed, sexually exclusive relationship is not in the cards. This is usually the core of most "The guy I'm dating is a decent person, but I think I'm falling in love with his best friend..." problems. You should not start a sexually exclusive relationship with someone you don't find sexually attractive (and this would include a relationship like marriage) ever. There is nothing wrong with simply remaining friends, and from what I've seen, friendships usually last a lot longer than most marriages these days.

So instead of us guys giving Jose a hard time, maybe we should be helping him out by finding new and exotic ways of occupying his wife's time while he's making new "friends" online.:dodgy: Hey--if a guy cheating on his wife can spice up a marrage, imagine what two cheating spouses can do.:devil:

[Kaisharga]

I dunno--something seems fundamentally wrong about that. But then again, I've learned from my Psychology and Sociology studies that 'True Love' is but an extention of sexual attraction. As for the whole cheating thing otherwise, it's sort of like keeping your word--you make those vows when you get married for a reason, and if you don't mean 'em, don't frickin say 'em!

--Kaisharga

[LeBlueBoy]

I guess my definition of love is the common bonds that exist between family, friends, and significant others. Love develops acceptance and emotional trust.

I think that outside influences like nurturing, protectiveness, comradarie, and sexual attraction define the distinctions in how that love is expressed, whether it's maternal or fraternal love, platonic love, or romantic love.

The old breakup line "Lets remain friends" seems to be a good indicator of how much you love the other person. Once you get past the pain, if you can still have a good relationship with that person without the sex--then love probably exists there. If you can appreciate what the other person brings to the table on a platonic level (not infatuation)--then I would define that as a solid foundation for love (but not necessarily for marrage or a committed sexual relationship, because that brings in a completely new dynamic, and a whole new set of expectations)

I'm no stranger to being dumped--but I can honestly say that there have been a few ex-girlfriends that have really come through when I needed a hand. At those times, I usually felt a great sense of loss, with a great sense of gratitude. In retrospect, I realize that I lost very little (except for more sex).

[katty]

Keeping it short and sweet - Affairs are out!
:redhot:

[xiaomoon]

hmm.. i dun seem to understand totally wat u are refering to:confused:

[LeBlueBoy]

I was responding to Kaisharga's post that true love is rooted in sexual attraction. I think true love exists outside sexual attraction--that it's the common element that exists in all strongly bonding relationships.