Please Help

[MikesGurl]

I am so confused. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a long long time. I want to get more intimate but how? How can i do it without making him not loose interest. I really love him and will do anything for him. Please help, Thank you!

[Gouki108]

Hi MikesGurl,
All you really need to do is make the first move. Coming from a guy, I'm sure he'd like to get more intimate with you, and it's probably the fact that he respects you so much that he doesn't want to seem pushy by making the first move. Next time you guy's are together, go a little further then you have before, or try taking his hands and putting them where YOU want them...;) I've had girls do that before, and I've never declined... Well, I can't think of anymore advice, but let me know how it goes. Good luck!!

Gouki108:devil:

[Dreamer18]

well okay this may sound kinda slutty if you will but i am definetly not that. Anyway here is my thing to say. I have been with this guy for a week and 2 days. We have kissed and talked about sex. but neither of us are ready. we both agreed though that if one of us did want it then to be staright forward and honest. I told him the other day that i liked him as more than a friend and i thought i was being to forward but then he told my friends that we were togehter which i never knew we were. So i guess you just gotta le it all out in the open! Besides he told me he likes a girl who is straight forward!!! Good luck!

[MikesGurl]

Thank you all for your advice. I told my boyfriend that he can be honest with me and tell me when he wants something, the same for me.. I said that i usually dont make the first move and he should, and i prepared to go FURTHER!!!!
Thanks everyone.. If you have anymore advice i could use it all!

[Kaisharga]

Permission without pressure is the best way to go for this kind of thing. Don't make him feel like you gotta scr00, but welcome his feelings if he feels like he wants to. But, you sound like you've already passed that hurdle anyway.

Aside from that, everyone's already said anything I would have. So, for once, I really don't have much to say. (everyone, mark it on your calendar!!)

--Kaisharga :flippy:

[MikesGurl]

How old is too young to have sex??? Or in other words (make love) i prefer that!!!

[Dreamer18]

I feel that when you know that answer to that question you will be old enough to make love. I didn't until i was 17 almost 18 and i was trying to wait until marriage, i didn't feel pressured to have sex it just happened after 2 and half months with my ex. After i gave it up to him i felt pressured to do it more and i was never happy. So i feel that when you are mature enough to handle the situation you are in then you are old enough to make love. Hope i helped!!:bouncy2: :bouncy2: :bouncy2:

[Kaisharga]

Wow. two and a half months IS a bit soon.

But other than that, I'd say there's no real cut-and-dry too-soon thing. I'd urge you to check with your state's regulations on Statutory rape. And don't just trust any old site about that--I'd see if I could cross-reference anything you see with actual legal codes (which can also be found online). Look for 'Age of Consent.'

I personally lost my virginity when i was 17.5, but I'd say to anyone else that you should probably wait until you're 19 or so before you go at it. And never EVER with less than six months going out with the person. Preferably more than a year. You gotta make sure BOTH of you are really into the relationship, and aren't going to freak out on eachother after your 'encounter.' You also don't want the relationship to be ABOUT the sex, because that's just as bad.

As Dreamer said, just make sure you're mature enough to know what you're doing, rationally, and consider it to be like marrying the person, because that's effectively what you're doing.

--Kaisharga

[Dreamer18]

well i believe he jus spoke the words better than i did. I admit it was too soon for me to began getting sexually active after two months and it isn't like i regret it, but to me it seemed that that was the thing that kept our relationship togehter and the thing our relationship was based on. I mean yeah we loved each other and that began before the sex. I miss him dearly but i wish i would have waited. He was 15 almost 16 and i was 17 almost 18. This happened last november so it hasn't even been a year. But please for the sake of the relationship make sure you both want it for the correct reasons.