how do I turn a friend into a lover?

[Athena]

I have a friend who I would like to have as more than a friend. He is sweet, funny, and intellectual. He has a loving heart and an old soul.

I want to be more than a friend to him but now I get shy when I am around him. Even when I try to tell him how I feel, he still sees me as a buddy. Any advice on how I can change how he looks at me? please help.

[LearnedLessons]

Doesn't sound like much you can do except wait for him to come around. Don't risk damaging the friendship. I have known people to be friends for DECADES before they finally discovered each other.

[christo]

Try this,
EG:"john we,ve known each other a while now,we have gone out a few times and we've laughed alot and it made me wonder how rewarding it would be to take our relationship one stage further"
If he looks uninterested,simply say "it was just a thought"
that way you save face and you take the pressure off him,the above technique if you do not know is a powerful hypnotic pace and lead technique,for more of this check out my seduction board posts,i will be posting more techniques on how to seduce and make people falln in love with you>
best wishes christo

[bngnprg]

i generally don't think its possible for guys to keep girl friends around without having some kind of attraction to them, so i say you just flat out tell him how you feel, and chances are he feels the same way about you

[Aprilsky]

Just tell him how you feel about him and ask him if the feelings are mutual, what do you have to lose? I had a really good friend that I wanted to hook up with, I told him how I felt and unfortunately he didn't feel the same, but we are still very good friends, and he still looks out for me.

[needurluv1956]

I really don't think a person could change a friend to thier lover. I'm in a relationship now with a woman who want to start as friends and have been seeing each other for about three weeks and she won't even let me give her a hug. All she wants to do is shake hands. Is there any advice out there for me?

[Kaisharga]

You can do some really subtle things to help get closer to a person. Do the things lovers do--brush through his hair, brush your hand across his cheek, hold hands, things like that--but disguise it. Brush through his hair 'to get a little fuzzy out of it.' Touch his cheek because 'there's a little bit of food stuck to his face.' Lay your head on his shoulder because 'it's just the right height and you're tired.' Ask if he can give you a quick massage on the back because you've 'had a really stressful day and you're all tense.' I'm sure you can come up with similar things. It will pay off because even if he doesn't realize you two are getting closer, acting like lovers, subconsciously he will.


Best of luck!
--Kaisharga

[louisgirl]

just make sure he has the same feelings for you as you do,you don't want to get your hopes up high about this....

[needurluv1956]

louisgirl I believe you answered my question because I'm sure she don't have the same feeling for me as I do for her. I've tried Kaisharga sugestion and only ended up with a more frighten woman who is scared to let a man into her life once more. thanks

[Kaisharga]

D'oh. I feel like a moron. Re-reading, i see that it's only been three weeks you've known her. That's a bit soon. My apologies for the bogus tips.

--Kaisharga the STOOPID