Cool off

[Pandora1980]

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. We're still friends- in the same major- so I see him every day.
When we broke up I realized that I had some problems that need immediate attention.
I'm working on fixing the problems. I talked to him about it and he said we'd re-evaluate our relationship after I felt I had a better handle on things. He said there was a distinct possibility that we'd get back together.
I am making progress and I guess I'm at a point where I feel I should decide whether or not to hang on to the hope that we could be happy together or give up and move on.

Whenever I look at his sweet face- I fall in love with him all over again. I'm pretty sure we could be happy together if it weren't for dating before my realization- now I don't know if things could ever actually be repaired. I don't think it's out of the question that he could be the one...

Help?

[Kaisharga]

Ask him if he would be willing to try again, to start over. It sounds like you two have a lot of opportunities to talk about this, so do. Talk at length about what relationship you had before, and what relationship you'd like to have in the future. See if his feelings correspond with yours. Make it a lunch or dinner 'date,' just make sure that there's no real time committment for either of you AFTER the 'meeting.' That way you can just keep talking as long as you need to to get this all sorted out.

Also, think about what happened before that resulted in the breakup, and ponder why it led to what it did. This can help prevent future problems of the same nature. If it's a problem you had with him, bring it up (politely and non-aggressively), and see what his feelings are on this. And LISTEN to his answer, don't be too defensive in your own stand to hear what he's saying and consider his feelings.

And, with luck, you two will get back together, and things will work out better this time.

--Kaisharga