Is he using me?

[Ashley]

i m 17, and he is 19 we have known each other for about 1 year, and had went steady before this. the last time we were together , i fell in love with another guy and we broke. however, he's still so loving to me and he said he still love me. Eventually i broke up with the other guy. I patched up with my ex. Now that we are together, he seems so busy. the only time when he is free is when we are sexually involved. I am afraid that he is only using me. is there anyway to find out? please help...

[Soap]

Maybe he is really busy? Trying asking him or tell him how you feel.

[Zoe]

How about paying a private investigator to check on him.
Never follow him as he will notice.:eyes:

[outcast]

try having a date with sex and see how did he react

[rjapz]

No Ashley, no need to higher an investigator " that's crazy at your age" , your young and don't have that kind of money, I'm assume your still in High School or about to go to College right? Nor a sex date, what ever that means. As far as what you said, Hmmmmm, sounds like when he wants it, your his BOOTY CALL. And you just give it to him like your doing it to boost up your career.You won't get respect that way. Next time, if he want's it, make him work for it, I mean...don't let your self be treated like a piece of meat. Let him respect you like the real lady that you are, you deserve to be treated like a princess, and not like a sex object.

Cause I can see that it's somewhat like that. Now if he's so busy, it could mean he has a secret lover that you don't know about, or he's working allot hours. If he's not working, Hmmmm, then you need to do is investigate it your self, by either following him on your free time, get your friends involve to help you out. Do what ever you have to do, in any way you feel like it and do some research. Before it gets out of control and you accuse him and confront him. To me it sounds like he is kind of using you for sex, does he take you out to dinner, movies, clubbing/parties and etc. If not, I hate say it, but you did said it your self. Now I'm Kind of confused , witch guy are you talking about. But it doesn't matter, a guy is a guy.

I'm a guy, and I know these things. I know how guys thinks/work and mack. I tell allot of girls who need advise the same thing, all guys think the same way. Even the sweet,kind, charming,shy, sensitive and innocent guy too, they just don't show it. Just talk to him, if he doesn't listen to you and he just want's it. And he get's mad and don't just want to here it. Does he always make up lies and excuses just to get in your panties. Don't give in and stick to your words, don't give up. Don't give him anything till he shows more attention and affection, and show that he loves you by doing nice things for you. Like taking you out. treating you special like you should be treated. Well Ashley, that's all I can say right now.

P.S. Remember to talk to him, and get the fact strait. If you like, you can email me, just to tell me how's it going. Just go to profile.:)

[maverick]

i have this great advice which i think wil solve ur dilemna... the next time he tries to get sexually involved to u, refuse... refuse for about 2 months. if he cant wait or i may get fed up with the idea of having no sex then he is just really using u. but if he still understand then maybe he is just busy most of the time and that ur just being paranoid.:)

[minirug]

hi! nice to meet u !

[maverick]

:) nice to meet u too! may i know ur name or email? thanks!:cool:

[Apollo]

hello, you can send email and private messages. just click on the profile or pm icons. check it out.

[N1kitasS4girl]

I was in the same situation once...i thought that my boyfriend only wanted me for sex because that's all we ever did. He never took me out anywhere nice, except a motel. Mybe you should mention going somewhere like a restraunt or something, and see how that goes.

[babymother]

well i see it like this there are 2 answers to your question.

answer1: He may have saw that you were happy with some one else besides him and wanted to see if you still loved him or see if he could make u give up the other guy for him just to make his self feel like a man and his plan from the start was to see if it would work just so he could continue to have sex with u.

answer2: He may not be using u he may think that u enjoy that the only time u get together is to have sex so its best the next time he think he is going to just pop up and get some tell him no and if he gets upset u have your answer and if says okay what else do you want to do then you'll know its love.