How do i get her to believe

[simon g]

I have a long time friend at work who has recently broke up with her husband.Although i have never told her i`ve loved her from the moment i first saw her not for her looks although she is great looking but mainly because she is so out going and happy.Since she split up with her husband i`ve been trying to help her to get over itbut she seems to be carrying on with another guy all ready. Now i know he`s going to hurt her again but i can¬t seem to make her see this and when i told her i love her she seems to get distant as if she`s scared of me. Has anyone out there been in this position and have you any advice on what i can do. I couldn`t stand it if she got hurt again what makes her sad makes me upset to . help me please:confused:

[Aprilsky]

Being that she just broke up with her husband, maybe she's not ready to jump into a serious relationship.
I have been through that situation. I broke up with someone that I really cared about and I was really upset, there was a friend that was there for me through it, who happened to be a guy, and he later told me that he wanted to be with me. I didn't want to because I saw him more as a friend and i didn't want to mess that up.
try being romantic with her, take her on a nice date or something, maybe she will see a side of you that she likes more than a friend?
Hope i was of some help, good luck
april

[E76]

Do you love all good-looking, friendly people?

[CelesteDeVive]

I agree with AprilSky that if she just recently split with her husband she probably is not looking for a serious relationship. Right out of a marriage is not a good place to start a new relationship. No matter what happened to cause the split she vowed to be faithful and love that man for the rest of her life, obviously she was very attached to him and it may take a while for her to get over that.

We've all heard of the "rebound" person and though this may not be what she is looking for I would not want to be that person, it would make things awkward later on. She is a grown woman and though you believe that she is going to be hurt again that is a decision that she has to make, you're job is to continue to stick by her and support her no matter what. She knows how you feel and the best way to drive the point home is to help her through this and any other mishaps. Maybe she will come to realize that she loves you as well or maybe you are just the friend to her, only time will tell.

[Miss Direction]

YOU want to get INVOLVED with a woman that has just gotten done with a divorce?!

Are you insane?!

What do YOU want out of a relationship?

More than likely NOT what she brings to the table.

Why are you interesting in something LIKE THAT?

Baggage and drama city?

Move on dude....you can do WAYYYY better!