**Messed up!**Need Help!**

[sweetie87]

Ive been somewhat involved for a bit with my friends ex-boyfriend (they've been broken up since September almost 3 weeks now) and he wants me to go out with him but I told him that I didnt want to go out with him for a couple of months because of her, She told us before that we should go out and such but I dont think she really means it, shes such a sweet person and such and I want to keep our friendship but id also like to have one with him as well. Would it be right or whatever for me to wait a little longer and then maybe go out with him but maybe keep it a secret or whatever? I simply do not know what to do, sometimes hes so hard to figure out, i think maybe hes not as interested in me as he used to be but i cant be sure, does anyone have any tips that i can use to see if he is or not? ugh,
:bawling:

[Kaisharga]

How about you just hang out with him for a while, and after things settle a bit you go out? You really REALLY shouldn't need to keep it a secret from your friends. Plus, the time needed to settle may be enough so that you can tell whether or not he's really interested. Everybody wins.

--Kaisharga

[jennifer]

Well, I think that you should have a more extensive talk with your friend and see how she really feels about the whole situation b/c I know I wouldn't like to be around when my friend and my ex are all " lovey-dovey" b/c think of how you would feel. But if she really is cool with the whole situation then if you still want to, go for it! Give it a chance thatway you don't destroy any friendships.