Wife is the life of the party.

[Dart]

My wife and I have been married for about 20 yrs now and we love each other very much, we even call each other soulmates.But the problem is that when we go off with our friends to party's or clubs, there's always guys walking up to her and me telling us how hot she looks and for the most part I really don't mind them saying so, she really is good looking.Let me also say that as far as my looks there are women that find me good looking also.I guess the problem is that she gets so much attention and I think to myself that I feel so out of place with her.I love the fact that I have a great looking wife and that people notice but I would like to get some of the same attention from women so that I don't feel so left out.Any help on this matter would be great.

[Kaisharga]

Psychological studies have found that when people choose someone to love (i don't even wanna hear any of that 'destiny' crap right now, this is the psychological and sociological perspective) it usually is someone of a VERY similar attractiveness. To better illustrate my point, an experiment was done with newspapers and their marriage announcements. Photos were cut up, and the wives and husbands separated. People were asked to rank the people individually according to their attractiveness on a scale of one to ten. There was a VERY high correlation between the rank people gave one in a couple, and the rank that they gave the other part of the same couple. Sixes were married to sixes, eights were married to eights, and twos were married to twos.

So, by this, you can almost be absolutely 100% sure that you are every bit as attractive to the opposite sex as is your partner.

Let's take a look at why you receive fewer compliments.

I don't think I need to go into serious depth on this one; guys are just in general a lot hornier. Complimenting women is just what they do--if it's not to hit on someone, it's to 'be a gentleman.' Or 'appreciate beauty.' Or whatever. Same thing. Women, on the other hand, tend to be the more quiet, subservient (as opposed to dominant) people (again, this does not mean that women are slaves, i just didn't have a better word). They don't compliment males hardly at all, especially in public. You can bet your ass they're looking, though.

Best way to handle this is just by thinking of every compliment to your wife being a compliment to the both of you.

--Kaisharga