nice guys or bad boys?

[dawgpuppie]

What do girls prefere? Nice ,polite, dependable, complementary guys? Or smart mouth, bad boys that are irresponsible,inconsiderate, carless, etc? Explain why and give an examlpe. Maybe you think one type is more fun or makes you feel a certain way etc.

[xiaomoon]

tat was a great question to ask!:rolleyes:
Well i perfer humourous guy who cares alot about me and of course he must be a responsible person too. I don't think girls will ever like irresponsible guys... Lastly, he must be a guy who really love me with all his heart!:)

[Aprilsky]

When I think about the perfect guy I want to be with I imagine him like this: Dependable, honest, hardworking, loyal, and most of all a guy that can make me laugh.
However, the guys I actually pick out to date are completely opposite. There's just something about a bad boy that makes me attracted to them. I've dated nice guys, but it never seems to work out, i guess it's not exciting enough for me. A bad boy makes me feel like I have an interesting life.
April :devil: :(

[SunGirl128]

I think that even though younger girls are attracted to the bad boy type now, that will change in the future. I personally am attracted to guys that are sweet, caring, giving, someone who can make me laugh, and fun to be around. :heart:

[imsoluvinit88]

Good questions...
I have to say i love bad boys..
"why do good girls..like bad guys"
even though im not that good myself, i love a guy thats up for adventure, and can make me nervous just with his touch.. Im young i quess and life is a thrill for me.. I do what i want-- and Dylan my boyfreind just adds to the fun with his crazy ideas. But in the long run.. I might end up likeing good boys.. cause at one point in time im going to want a husband.. and nicer guys are usally better for that kinda thing.. ;-)

[Angeleyes]

Hmmm I don't have to think hard on this one. Its certainly got to be the "good" guy for me I'm afraid.

My main reason cos someone close to me has had a couple of very bad experiences with bad boys.

This has therefore made me even more determined to try and find someone who is kind and considerate, loyal and who would love me to bits etc.

I think the main thing for me is a guy has to make me laugh. When you're younger I think you're attracted more to what he initially looks like/how bad he is. As one gets older the personality thing takes precedence over this. That's my opinion anyhow.

Angeleyes
:angel:

[Woekan]

There are 2 types of nice guys:
1) The shy guys, always sitting in death row at a party, waiting, hoping till a girl comes to talk to him, then spoil her with drinks and hoping for a phone number or a kiss, ACTING nice but actually only wanting the same thing every other guy wants, and hoping to get it by begging and spoiling her with flowers drinks and compliments..

2) The happy type, who sits at a party talking to girls, having fun, being nice, who only gives compliments he actually means. Maybe buying drinks in turn with his friends and the other girls. Who still is caring and nice but not in a stupid way like the other nice guy.

Guys think that the nice guy is Nr 1, and that the bad boy is Nr 2.. So thats why i always teach my 'students' and on my website that you should rather be a bad boy then a nice guy..

Tough most girls think that bad boys are

Drunk drug using bumbs, who do all the things that arent alowed, talking about knives, soccer and mobile phones. The rude abusive type. Maybe not physicly abusive but deffinitly pshycicly abusive.

So i guess that most girls like the niceguy cathagory 2 :) .. Right?

[Angeleyes]

Woekan: Think you're right on this one and I've never looked at it that way before.

I certainly would be attracted to the "nice guy" no. 2 - the "Happy" one!

Shy no. 1, even though this type can be cute at the beginning, the novelty would wear off and he would just totally do my head in eventually.

Angeleyes :D

[LeBlueBoy]

The female equivilent of the "bad boy" is the "party girl", and the two female versions of the "nice guy" are the "debutante" and the "slummer". The common element that these folks all have in common is superficiality...

"Nice guys," like "Debutantes" and "Slummers" are concerned about how they stack up to other people. They're concerned about their image: "see how nice I am...", "how smart I am...", "how rich I am...", "how uninterested in material goods I am..." etc. This makes folks in this particular category really uninteresting conversationalists, and pretty one dimensional in their concerns. They usually come across as unapproachable, whiny, hypercritical, and depressing. Women and guys who are so concerned about their "image" are rarely much fun to be with. Most "nice guys" try to project how "nice" or "intellectual" they are. The problem is: if you're really that smart, or that wonderful, it seems like you'd figure out how to get a date.

"Bad boys" and "Party Girls" are superficial on a different level. Their major concern is how to make the most of a Friday night. Even if their scope of interest seems limited, there's a much better chance that you're going to have a good time if you're hanging out with that crowd, than you will at a Trekkie convention or a Marxist rally. "Bad Boys" are interested in having a good time, and if you're interested in having a good time, they usually know where to find it, or make it happen.

"Nice guys" are a dime a dozen, but great guys will make the effort to make those around them feel good about themselves, and have a good time. A great guy doesn't need to measure up to anyone, and he seems to take pride in the fact that the people around him have equally good qualities that he refuses to be threatened by. Its a rare pleasure to be around a man or woman with this sort of confidence.

[Pandora1980]

I personally think the major difference between "bad boys" and "nice guys" isn't exactly obvious.

This is what I've found...

These "nice guys" generally have a lower self esteem. They are nice to a girl so that they can feel better about themselves by having a girlfriend and being "a great boyfriend".

These "bad boys" tend not to care so much about other people (not that it's a bad thing). They have a better self image and are happy with themselves and don't need to act as a servant to "improve" their self image.

It's not that people with lower self esteem are the "nice guys" - it's just more tend to fall within the stereotype, and vice versa.

I personally don't want either stereotype, I want a guy with self confidence who will treat me with respect, but not make me his whole life and get all upset if I want to spend a night without him.

This is why a good guy is so hard to find!!! Most people have a problem with their self image for whatever reason.

#1 on my list is intelligence (who wants to explain everything you say in a conversation), and #2- sense of humor

Even if the guy has both of those, it's a no go if he's going to make me his whole world- I just don't have time

[BlondeLooker]

Pandora, thats hit the nail on the head for me.

I think by `nice guy' you are talking about what we would call a `love bubble'. Now this is when your whole life is taken up thinking about\doing things for the woman in your life. Totally focused on this excluding everything else. Its kind-of like a fantasy world where everything is blue-sky\wheat fields\roses and cuteness. Yuk!

In the real world, I think its important not to put too much of yourself into things like that. For me, its more healthy (mentally) to go out with the lads and encourage your girl to do the same with her friends. You can meet-up later on anyway ;)

Its great to be cute, but being cute all the time becomes extremely dull.