why are some girls SO STUCK UP!?

[beltfed]

That's exactly what I don't get!

girls- a guy asks you out, right. will you care about every single little flaw he has? will you reject him just because he dosen't look like the ideal person to go out with. such as, maybe he is a little short, or maybe he isn't the most popular guy in school. what if he is not afraid to admit that his family is a little tight on money? even though he treats you like a complete gentlemen should?
It seems like every girl I meet is a complete hypocrite! I wish I could meet someone who would like a guy for who he is!

Any thoughts, ladies?

[xiaomoon]

I'm sure there's someone out there for you.. I believe that its just that the time is not up yet! You just gonna wait for it(love) to come to you:rolleyes:
Well, maybe those girls don't know you well enough to find that you are actually a nice guy!

[beltfed]

I just can't belive how some people can be so ignorant.

[xiaomoon]

ok if thats the case then she's not worth it of you to like her!;)

[darkangel]

I can totally relate. Even though i don't date women (ehem.. me being one) i don't befriend many of them. They can be so selfish, needy and uncaring. I also find that many are uptight, pushovers, and even decietful. They love gossip way too much and tend to think only of themselves. I have more male friends than female for that reason. I however, know that many girls are out there who are worth it. I have a best friend who has the best personality. She is uplifting, carefree, and totally cool. My other friend is completely hilarious, and always smiling, and then there's the one who has the biggest heart. Look, i am not saying finding the worthwhile ones are easy.. but if you focus on other things it might just come to you..

:p
Marie

[darkangel]

Ps.. like the avatar for the both of you. glad someone else is into anime!! :p
later,
marie

[Aprilsky]

Hey it's not just girls that are like that, I have been through quite a few guys that are materialistic and stuck up. You just gotta find someone to look past what's on the outside, even if you are attractive. I would rather someone love me for who I am and not for what I look like, or how much money my family has.
April :nod:

[babymother]

I think its because alot of females today are very money hungry and are out for self . so if you just wait it out the right girl will find you .you won't have to find her. :) ;)

[Smokey Mc Pot]

all i have 2 say is girls dont know what they want.

They cant decide and when the right guy comes up, they cant handle it.

Anyways, as much as girls say guys are immature, girls are in some ways, about as much and sometimes even more immature than guys are, and here's why...

The girl wants the guy to be the tall, perfect face, smile, and body. They want him to be rich, and drive the expensive cars. They want only the quarterback of the football team, and every other sport (which can be more harder than football, and the playters must be in better shape) dont even matter.

They want Mr. Popular, the guy every guy is friends with, who makes fun of the nerds and "smart" kids, to make evryone laugh.

However, teh movie Can't Hardly Wait is almost exactly like this situation. Jennifer Love Hewitt goes fo tthe guy who gets picked on, the football star looses his looks, an dis a fat bastard, and the guy everyone laughed at is the richest guy and most successful. When girls are in their late teens, early 20's all they think about is being popular. Later, as they grow more mature, they realize they should've gone with the guy that was the nicest to them, who didnt care how popular she was, that she loved her for her, and that's all. And, what's worst of all, is when they find out that the guy she dumped a thousand is earning millions of dollars, they crawl back, and expect them to forgive htem, and ket him be her sugar daddy, and cheat on him anyways. But, the thing is, when th egirl comes back, the guy cant help but accept. I fel bad because that's not how the way love works.

Anyways, that's only my opinion, and from the perspectoive of a 16 year old guy...so take it for what you will.

[Kaisharga]

Wait up there. I guess I can see that coming from a 16-year-old, as High School is probably where you get in contact with most people in your daily life, and people there are still lodged in their general popularity crap, and a LOT of people are petty. Not just the girls, either. A significant portion (read: not all) of girls in the 'popular' circuit do want a 'token' boyfriend, just someone to leech off. Not a boy FRIEND, a boy TOY. And actually, those people shouldn't even register on your radar. Their shallowness makes them lesser, in my opinion. They'll learn, and fast, once they get out of HS. Trust me on this one.

So, pay attention to people who actually have brains in their skulls, and everything will be ok.

After all, what good is a ring made of plastic? If you're getting a ring, make sure you find the right one. </strange analogy>

--Kaisharga

[Pandora1980]

I think you shouldn't be worrying about how hard it is to find a nice girl. What you should be doing is thinking about yourself- you without someone. If you love yourself it's a lot easier to take rejection although rejection also comes less often.
If you're doing everything that makes you happy and realize how great a person you are on your own. You don't need someone else as much. At the same time- women see this guy who likes himself (not in love with himself) - it makes you more intriguing, more attractive. And all kinds of women will be much more receptive to going out with you- and you get to pick the nice ones.

In short- Take care of yourself -> Love yourself -> you'll be happier, more attractive-> more women will be interested and you get to pick instead of chasing everyone in hopes that someone will date you.

[Kaisharga]

Hot damn. I've been trying to say that for months, and you just spit it right out better than i ever have. Can i take some lessons?

--Kaisharga

[LeBlueBoy]

The "Can't Hardly Wait" scenario has an element that hasn't been explored in this post...the main character hesitates in making a move, and the opportunity is lost to him for four years. The sad thing is that she doesn't respond to something he actually says...instead, she finds out how he feels by accident, and what type of person he is through other people. It isn't until the last few minutes of the movie that he says what he should have said four years earlier. (Although, in defense of the romantic nature of the film, both parties are four years older, and hopefully, a lot more mature--so the relationship may have a much better chance of working out.)

Shyness can send two messages: either "People are too stupid and shallow to realize how wonderful I think I am, so why bother." or "Everyone else is better than me." Is this the message you really want to send to people? When you choke in attempting to talk to another person, imagine yourself wearing a T-shirt that says one of the two phrases above, then get off your rump and start interacting.

I've had girlfriends ask me why certain women get hit on in bars (usually women contribute the attraction to the size of their breasts, to "baby talk", or to any number of physical attributes that they might give them an edge). The simple fact is...these women are sending out signals that they are available by making conversation with other folks in the bar--they leave themselves open for converation, and relay to others that they are approachable.

Being popular isn't as much work as it seems, it usually requires showing real interest in other people, and biting your toungue when it comes to downgrading others. People will gauge you by how they are reflected back when they interact with you. If someone feels good about themselves when they hang out with you, chances are, they're going to want to hang out with you on a regular basis.