Why Pretend to get True Love?

[sailor7]

Hi Everybody,
I have just been heart broken. Here is the reply i got from the girl i loved a lot
hi sailor
just went thru ur mail, gosh i was shocked.
u were always a friend 2 me so where did a relation
pop in,i mean just because i told u that i like u,
doesn't mean that i like u like u. i thought that u
were matured, but sorry 2 say that u aren't.
i don't know what 2 make out of this situation, i m
not ready for an affair.
bye
Tweety

I have know this gal for about 4 years, and now this is what she tells me. What should i do?:bawling:

:eek2: :eek2: My friends tell me that i should try to be very strong in front of a person i love. I should be dominating and authoratative. But if two people love each other truly then i do not feel there is any need of any false pretense of being dominating. If i have a non-dominating charachter then why should i pretend? She will come to know my true self sooner or later won't she?
I am really very confused.I am a very honest person someone who is ready to give his life for his love and for any of his friends for that matter but people tell me not to be too good in this bad world. How does one find true love without pretending. Please give me suggestions:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

[Ares]

Why do you think that you should be dominating and authoratative?

Being matured doesn't mean that you should be dominating and authoratative.

[Kaisharga]

How does one find love without pretending?

Easy.

Don't pretend.

(subtle inference: Be Yourself, Always)

--Kaisharga

[E76]

How old are you and this girl? Also, you have switched directions in mid paragraph, you never said anything how you two really were before she read you mail(which we also need details about). And you never said what this had to do with you becoming more mature? Did she find porn in there or something? This is just too little information for good advice to be given.