Pissed off white boy here

[SubSkunkLB]

I had a relationship for 7 months that started while I was 15. Now I'm 17 and I havent had a girlfriend since. Ive done everything, well not everything. I dont do drugs, I dont smoke, I dont have bad breath, im a decent looking guy, im nice, i dont just try to get laid, im usually good friends with a girl before we date, i have fun, im confident, I mean, its like theres nothing left for me to do. The only thing that Im lacking is Im not out going. I sound cocky, but im not really. I dont look at my muscles or anything like that. So many girls have said stuff like "any girl would be lucky to go out with you", ive been called "an amazing guy", and the best comment ive ever gotten was (this comment was made when i asked a girl the differences between me and another guy) "theres tons of people like him, but theres only one of you, youre unique"

Ya know, what else can I do...its like, i try to flirt,
one thing though, ive almost gone out with about 4 or 5 girls since, like almost started dating, but they havent been up to my "standards"

I have high standards for myself and girls i date.

Which may be why I cant find the right one right now, but shouldntI atleast find somebody as a good candidate?

What can I do? Please any girls! Help me out here, I know you girls know what drives you crazy! Please man, thanks if you reply, appreciate it

And one more thing

with girlfriends ive never been good at getting presents, for anniversaries, birthdays, etc...
And i listen and pay attention to listen to clues, but i can never get anything

the only thing ive thought of getting is a book of poetry about love and happiness and life, help me out please

[darkangel]

Hey.. me being a female.. i gotta give it to you.. never met a guy like you before. I guess I can't say too much because of it.. but you need to hold on a little longer. If they aren't good enough at first.. give em some time.. i wouldn't have given my honey a second thought except that i was openminded.. and it happens that he is awesome! so i guess take one day at a time.. and don't worry... your probably not missing much.
:rolleyes:
good luck

Marie

[Kaisharga]

You sound a lot like me, SubSkunk.

I have to say that Dark's advice was sound--be open-minded and sometimes new (and good) things will be revealed.

However, this is not what i intended this message to say.

Speaking from experience, I would say to just let go of the dating thing.

Yes, that's what i said. Let Go.

Live your life, be happy around your friends, both male and female, and make sure that you just enjoy what's going on already. Take a good look around--you have so many good friends, who would do a lot for you. Don't put them aside in your mind so easily. Just be with the friends that you want to be with. Do things you and your friends like to do. Whatever that may be.

My story: I really didn't care about dating. I actually had a bit of distaste for the whole 'emotions' thing, and less so for the 'dating' thing in general. I got involved in acting in community theatre, and during one production, a fellow cast member was revealed to be interested in collectible card games, as well as Role Playing Games, pen+paper style--big interests for me. We became friends, and hung out, playing cards with a few other friends, on numerous occasions. We both recognized (after a varying time span; she realized her affections for me wayyyy before i realized i felt the same way about her) that we had taken quite a liking to eachother, and things just sort of took off from there.

Early in that process, I was still in denial about my 'dating' her ("We're just friends, hanging out, mom!"), and someone said something to me that rings a chord that could be applicable to your situation: "Try to find love and it will elude you. Try to elude love and it will find you."

So. Kick back, enjoy the life you have now, and let your next chapter be written when the time is right.

--Kaisharga, who's trying to figure out what else he had to say but forgot

[Tyler]

So young, so angry. Dammed the Rap music.... joking ;)

Disappointment comes from expectations. Your disappointment come from the high standards you set for myself and girls you date.

Do yourself a favour. F the standards. Why not just be friends? Chill out man, relax and have fun.

[ShadMagic]

but what if he doesnt want to stop the high standards, i sure as hell wouldnt go out with a girl that isnt of my standards,

[SunGirl128]

Could we maybe be clear about this whole standards thing? What exactly are you standards, what are the things a girl need to have before she can win your affections?

[LeBlueBoy]

I think there needs to be some clarity on what "high standards" are too. I know too many guys who get hung up on "being the first" when in all reality "being the best" is what really matters.

Basically what I look for in a woman is: Do I personally find her attractive? (Who cares what your friends think--they're not the ones that are dating her) Is she compatible? Are our hangups in sync with each other? (Dating someone who has grown up in a guilt based environment can certainly understand this) Is she basically a decent hearted person? and Does she treat me like an adult--or does she envision BIG CHANGES for me and my lifestyle?

That's my checklist.