Ex says she regrets leaving me??

[KroM]

Okay here we go, I'll try and shorten this as much as I can.
I dated this girl about a year and a half ago for two months. It was great, we were perfect for each other. Until she told me she found out that she was bisexual, and that she wanted to "figure things out." I, of course was crushed. I didn't talk to her for a long time, until I found out she was to be an exchange student in Japan for 10 months. I patched things up with her (we became friends), and we were pen pals while she was away.

She's been back for over a month now, and we've been getting alot closer again, at least as friends.

Weeeeelll... today we hung out together (went out for coffee, shopping, out to lunch) and on the way to the park, she threw me a curve I didn't see coming. She said that she really regretted what she did and that she wished she hadn't done it. She told me straight out that she really wanted to try again, but she wasn't sure she "knows herself well enough." It's not at all a physical thing, either, she said she felt like she could tell me anything (besides, i'm not exactly model material). The whole thing started when we had said that we both hadn't dated anyone since after we broke up.

We kept talking casually after that, and rented a movie, and generally had a good time. But now I'm sitting here and can't stop thinking about her. I spent a LONG time getting over her and now she tells me she really wants to be with me again! I'm thinking now and I realize that when she told me, I never told her what I feel about getting back together, I just told her that I was over her, and there were no hard feelings. Now I really want to tell her how I feel, and that I want to give it another try, but I can't decide! Why did she tell me this?? Was she trying to see if I wanted to try again?

Do you think it would be a good idea to tell her? Or should I just forget about it for now and let her figure things out. Please give me advice.

I probably won't make a big move and get serious with her again, but there's this voice in the back of my head. When she dumped me, she said "you're like, the perfect person..." and now she says she made a big mistake and really wants to try again.
She is really an amazing person, and it almost seemed perfect with her, and now the small notion of having a chance with her again has come up. Wouldn't you at least consider the possibility?

[katty]

Are you happy when you are with her?

Do you think of her everytime?

Do you wish to be with her?

Will you regret it in future if you didn't give this relationship a try?

Only you know the answer to these questions. Hope this helps.

[JimmyBlue]

Dude...

Go for it.

Trust me, you're not going to have that many chances to get
a bi girlfriend who's this ready for you.

What's the problem with her being bi? Hell, I consider
that a bonus. Like, "have your cake and eat it too".
Heh. Think of the showering possibilities, and slap
yourself for ever making it a problem.

One thing you can figure from her "bi" phase is that
she's got a sexual curiosity that will make her an
interesting partner, if you can get in her groove. Take
a hint and go down, like a good girl, once in a while.
Learn to like it, grow to love it. ;)~

Give her the opportunity to flower for you. I don't think
you'll regret it.

Besides, you've gotten over her once already... (Yeh, right.)
so it can be done again, if worse comes to worst. On the
other hand, you're in the midst of an opportunity to
set it up right, and see if the two of you can make it
better than the first time.

[Kaisharga]

Dude. I think you need to take things a bit less seriously (the original poster). So she found out she had some bisexual tendencies--that kind of thing is very world-paradigm-breaking...I don't blame her for needing time without a relationship to see what she feels like on her own. (Reference to "in order to love others you must first love yourself" here.) That's not a breakup, that's an 'i need some room, let's not date for a little while.' I think she had probably for that whole time, still considered you her sig other.

And listen to yourself. "She came back and said let's try this again........does this mean she wanted to see if I wanted to try this again?" Come on. Just read that, and you can answer that question.
As for her willingness (and wantingness?) to see you while she's figuring out these details, that shows even greater trust of you on her part, and maybe you two can grow together, and you might learn some new things about yourself as you both develop and discover your inner true selves.

All in all, I say it's a win-win situation. Go get 'er.

--Kaisharga