Am I wasting my time?

[Lea Nakazato]

Okay, I love romance, the more romantic the guy the better.

Well, I found one of those romantic type of guys. You know, sweet, flowers for no reason, make love by the fire place.:love: Well, it turns out there is another girl in his life.. Not in that way, he just, use to date her. He says he was in love with her :dodgy: and that he kinda still cares for her,blah blah blah. But he says he cares for me to

I met her.. she's a nice girl. But I'm jealous, almost to the point where I want to smack her around.:kaioken:

I really like this guy alot.. but I really don't know what to do! I just want a little advice.. help:bawling:

[Libera a Malo]

More than a few problems reveal themselves here. Judging from your brief description of the circumstances, it may be possible that he is still involved with this girl vicariously through you. You seem to reap the benefits of his previously failed relationship. The compelling factor is whether or not you sought to be introduced to his prior lover, or if he sought to introduce you. While it's normal (and healthy) for someone to exit a relationship possessing a comparative outlook, strive to work through that. If you're serious about your new relationship do not allow yourself to be compared. Specifically, do not compare yourself to her. Statements of the form, "I do action X better than your old lover." are completely destructive. Rather, you should be the one to which she is compared. Be that person. Do not focus solely on his previous relationship to the neglect of the one which you now share.

Most importantly, communicate openly and honestly. Yeah yeah, that communication thing again. Ubiquitous, and yet seemingly the most difficult aspect of a relationship. So many people think they've got a secret formula or ploy, a specific phrase, a singular action which will complete the arch between the sexes as well as a keystone. The easier their solution, the more attractive it remains to others. There is a keystone. Though it invariably diverges from being easy. Oh yes! you guessed it! That keystone is open and honest communication. How predictable. Which is precisely the point.

Best of luck

[GhettoKid21]

well I dunno about the guy above me, his reply seems to be too long and somewhat incomprehensible :confused: .......well, my solution to this matter is that you should smack her around :wall: or hit her really hard :smash: and tell her to get the fuq away from your boyfriend :redhot: . Either that, or you can somehow brainwash your boyfriend in thinking thats she's evil......I say this because I know you really like your boyfriend a lot and you wouldnt want a little Threesome going on :lman:.....well this is it for me, bye!!

[sailor7]

For guys two birds in a bush are better than one in the hand, so be very careful, if he really cares about you then why does he not tell you that you are the only one he loves, why does he cling on to her ex-gf, tell him that he has to decide between the two.

[xiaomoon]

well like what salior7 said, that guy may be steping on two boats.
thats what every girl is scared of. I'll also feel the same way that you feel now..
Maybe you should find out if he still has feelings for that girl or approach him for that. You must also observe if he really likes you only or is still thinking about that girl. If he still likes the girl, i think it's not worth it to waste your time on this relationship that will not fruit.:flower: